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buzzycrumbhunger

(2,489 posts)
31. It's not fair
Sun Jul 5, 2026, 05:49 PM
22 hrs ago

… that our furbabies live such short lives compared to ours to begin with, but even knowing that, it’s ALWAYS a big blow.

That initial hole in your life does scab over, though, and invariably another one will come to fill the gap. Every dog and cat I’ve had has succeeded in easing the pain of that hole and filling in another I didn’t know I had. Every new one immediately has me wondering why I waited so long to welcome a new one.

I think it’s almost worse having pets who will outlive you… I have four parrots (two orange wing Amazons and two African greys) who can live 80-100 years and I’m more concerned about how my kids will have to take up that mantle (daughter wants the Amazons because they’re smaller and less scary to her, son will get the greys).

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You are in my thoughts ZDU Yesterday #1
Perfect.... JoeOtterbein Yesterday #2
It gets better, Amigo JoseBalow Yesterday #3
I think, too, that what's going on in our country magnifies our other losses. CrispyQ Yesterday #4
This makes sense electric_blue68 12 hrs ago #36
... Niagara Yesterday #5
. LuckyCharms Yesterday #6
That grief will never go away, Lucky Niagara Yesterday #9
Wow that's incredible thanks for sharing! ... OldBoss Yesterday #7
Thank you for the wisdom from Almaas Wild blueberry Yesterday #8
A few days ago? Lulu KC Yesterday #10
Wonderful post, LC. Felicita Yesterday #11
That's the advice I give everyone who has lost a pet -- get another as soon as practical William Seger Yesterday #14
Lost my longtime dog a few months ago mdbl Yesterday #12
❣️ littlemissmartypants Yesterday #13
i lost my last long lived cat + i soon got 2 more. i need spares. you need spares. pansypoo53219 Yesterday #15
I feel like Grief is... BurnDoubt Yesterday #16
For you: sinkingfeeling Yesterday #17
My deepest condolences. Charlie Chapulin Yesterday #18
We adopted our most recent dog in February mountain grammy Yesterday #19
My heart goes out to you. . . . h2ebits Yesterday #20
I'm so sorry. I feel you...my brother died of Covid in 2021 and my dog's death is LuckyCharms 23 hrs ago #26
Indeed. . . . h2ebits 19 hrs ago #32
Phew! catchnrelease Yesterday #21
I'm so sorry... LuckyCharms 23 hrs ago #25
Thanks catchnrelease 23 hrs ago #29
I'm so sorry, Lucky. Been there twice before. Diamond_Dog Yesterday #22
My condolences lucky. Your explanation makes sense of my recent experience. Ilikepurple Yesterday #23
Oh my...you nailed my feelings exactly. LuckyCharms 23 hrs ago #27
Anyone who has given his heart to another being understands what you are going through, Lucky. Bumbles 23 hrs ago #24
Sending you love and peace. PittBlue 23 hrs ago #28
Whoa, Thanks for Sharing That, LuckyCharms! It Definitely Hit a Nerve. The Roux Comes First 22 hrs ago #30
It's not fair buzzycrumbhunger 22 hrs ago #31
A Dog's Last Will & Testament..... Bayard 17 hrs ago #33
This message was self-deleted by its author applegrove 12 hrs ago #34
That is beautiful. applegrove 12 hrs ago #35
Some wonderful thoughts by that person. Another hug for you, LC. electric_blue68 12 hrs ago #37
Condolences on your loss. Beautiful, resonant quote. Timeflyer 6 hrs ago #38
This is very insightful, thanks for sharing it FakeNoose 6 hrs ago #39
Thanks so much for sharing that, LC. TygrBright 6 hrs ago #40
All I know is that from the time I came out of the womb... hamsterjill 6 hrs ago #41
Jill... LuckyCharms 5 hrs ago #43
You are putting good back into the world even as you grieve, Lucky. hamsterjill 5 hrs ago #44
The pets EuterpeThelo 5 hrs ago #42
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