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BurnDoubt

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16. I feel like Grief is...

Sun Jul 5, 2026, 02:32 PM

23 hrs ago

the bill coming due for a lifetime of little bits of Joy payed-out over years, and the Love shared in every moment. Your tears are a tribute to a lasting relationship of shared moments and Love, and proof that you are worthy to feel the loss deeply. In time, maybe these memories will hurt less and comfort more. Seek consolation in knowing that you are a person who is capable of Loving deeply and feeling compassion. These are the pinnacle of Human-ness.
I would recommend seeking counsel sooner rather than later. Chances are you may find a guide out of the pain, and it doesn’t make sense to suffer needlessly.
It’s good that you reach out. Don’t stop. People care.

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Forgive me for getting so deep here, but I read something this morning concerning pet loss... [View all] LuckyCharms Yesterday OP

You are in my thoughts ZDU Yesterday #1

Perfect.... JoeOtterbein Yesterday #2

It gets better, Amigo JoseBalow Yesterday #3

I think, too, that what's going on in our country magnifies our other losses. CrispyQ Yesterday #4

This makes sense electric_blue68 10 hrs ago #36

... Niagara Yesterday #5

. LuckyCharms Yesterday #6

That grief will never go away, Lucky Niagara 23 hrs ago #9

Wow that's incredible thanks for sharing! ... OldBoss Yesterday #7

Thank you for the wisdom from Almaas Wild blueberry Yesterday #8

A few days ago? Lulu KC 23 hrs ago #10

Wonderful post, LC. Felicita 23 hrs ago #11

That's the advice I give everyone who has lost a pet -- get another as soon as practical William Seger 23 hrs ago #14

Lost my longtime dog a few months ago mdbl 23 hrs ago #12

❣️ littlemissmartypants 23 hrs ago #13

i lost my last long lived cat + i soon got 2 more. i need spares. you need spares. pansypoo53219 23 hrs ago #15

I feel like Grief is... BurnDoubt 23 hrs ago #16

For you: sinkingfeeling 23 hrs ago #17

My deepest condolences. Charlie Chapulin 23 hrs ago #18

We adopted our most recent dog in February mountain grammy 23 hrs ago #19

My heart goes out to you. . . . h2ebits 23 hrs ago #20

I'm so sorry. I feel you...my brother died of Covid in 2021 and my dog's death is LuckyCharms 21 hrs ago #26

Indeed. . . . h2ebits 17 hrs ago #32

Phew! catchnrelease 22 hrs ago #21

I'm so sorry... LuckyCharms 21 hrs ago #25

Thanks catchnrelease 21 hrs ago #29

I'm so sorry, Lucky. Been there twice before. Diamond_Dog 22 hrs ago #22

My condolences lucky. Your explanation makes sense of my recent experience. Ilikepurple 22 hrs ago #23

Oh my...you nailed my feelings exactly. LuckyCharms 21 hrs ago #27

Anyone who has given his heart to another being understands what you are going through, Lucky. Bumbles 21 hrs ago #24

Sending you love and peace. PittBlue 21 hrs ago #28

Whoa, Thanks for Sharing That, LuckyCharms! It Definitely Hit a Nerve. The Roux Comes First 20 hrs ago #30

It's not fair buzzycrumbhunger 20 hrs ago #31

A Dog's Last Will & Testament..... Bayard 15 hrs ago #33

This message was self-deleted by its author applegrove 10 hrs ago #34

That is beautiful. applegrove 10 hrs ago #35

Some wonderful thoughts by that person. Another hug for you, LC. electric_blue68 10 hrs ago #37

Condolences on your loss. Beautiful, resonant quote. Timeflyer 4 hrs ago #38

This is very insightful, thanks for sharing it FakeNoose 4 hrs ago #39

Thanks so much for sharing that, LC. TygrBright 4 hrs ago #40

All I know is that from the time I came out of the womb... hamsterjill 4 hrs ago #41

Jill... LuckyCharms 3 hrs ago #43

You are putting good back into the world even as you grieve, Lucky. hamsterjill 3 hrs ago #44

The pets EuterpeThelo 3 hrs ago #42