The DU Lounge

It really can be startling when someone younger than you is staring their own mortality in the face. Anyone doing that is a reminder for us, but there's often something tragic about a person dying young - or younger than you think they should. Early 60's is still young indeed. It's very sad he's had to suffer.

Often we can't find the tears in the grief we're feeling. If music can help you along with that, that's fabulous. It's a beautiful piece.

I had a friend, a little less than a decade younger than me, in her mid-40's. She went into emergency with a concern just before covid hit and never came out. It turns out the concern she had, which was unknown to her at the time, was a symptom of leukemia. She died in the hospital 2 weeks after that ER visit. Her and her partner had just bought a house, they had planned to start a family - given her age, one child - and grow old together. He was devastated, and as far as I know, has still not fully recovered from the loss. It shook me to the core; we all theoretically know something can happen at any time, but when it happens to someone you know, it's far more REAL.

I do hope your friend makes a surprise recovery - my sister did, after a massive blood clot had her in ICU and on life support for 6 weeks - but if it's not to be, I hope it's a peaceful death.