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45. I suspect that you may not appreciate why I couldn't possibly have been a mistake on her part.

Sat Apr 11, 2026, 08:33 AM

Apr 11

Like you, I married a beautiful woman, although I confess I had no idea when I met her what a "beautiful woman" might actually be.

My wife's previous lovers were all better looking than me, and I believe, smarter and richer than I am.

What my only advantage was that I knew and understood what it is to and how to love someone, and as my wife's experience with other men was that they saw her as an object, an item of display.

You clearly love your wife profoundly, and in so doing, you give her what few others might have done, unconditional and absolute love.

When I was a kid, and I used to play in folk clubs, I had a rendition of Dave Van Ronk's Motherless Children which had this verse:

Your wife or your husband will be good to you, when your mother is dead.
You know your wife or your husband will be good to you, when your mother is dead.
Yes your wife or your husband will be good to you, but nobody loves you like your mother do.
Motherless children have a hard time when your mother is dead.

Van Ronk said he could tell a lie, but he sure couldn't sing one.

I found I was singing a lie, albeit after the fact. My mother loved me, but not like my wife does.

I certainly love my wife more than her mother did, and I suspect, without any direct knowledge, you love your wife more than any other person ever has.

There is, I think, nothing more precious than that.

This is why it wasn't a mistake, which I'm pretty sure, knowing next to nothing about her, she knows quite well.

Congratulations on a life of love well lived.

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