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tanyev

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34. Married with no kids, and that would be us if our family lived closer.

Mon Dec 1, 2025, 08:38 AM

Dec 1

I’m actually relieved we don’t live close enough for holiday invitations, especially Christmas. My nieces and nephew are great, and their kids are great, but, no, I do not want to sit there for hours on Christmas morning watching their kids attack the mountain of presents with accompanying shrieks of delight and possible cries of outrage as the morning wears on and the kids start squabbling over the best presents.

And although they would be thoughtful enough to have little presents for me too, I would really rather go see a movie than sit through someone else’s Christmas extravaganza.

I don’t know when holidays became so loaded with emotional baggage. Maybe when all the lifestyle gurus started giving “advice” on how to make it the “Best _____ Ever!” and Pinterest created new standards for holiday decorating and entertaining.

I prefer to see my relatives in non- holiday situations and have quiet holidays at home. There is NOTHING wrong with that!

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Any other single no kids, no grandkids aunt or uncle who feels invisible at the holidays with family? [View all] Beatlelvr Nov 30 OP

Sorry; that's a difficult place to be in Chasstev365 Nov 30 #1

Thank you Beatlelvr Nov 30 #2

I am widowed and go to my daughter's home for the holidays now Marthe48 Nov 30 #3

You are right Beatlelvr Nov 30 #9

Our family gave up on trying to get together once everyone grew up. 1WorldHope Nov 30 #4

Along those lines... Beatlelvr Nov 30 #10

I hear you. I'm single with no children and feel Boomerproud Nov 30 #5

Like your name too! Beatlelvr Nov 30 #11

71 here, no kids. Staph Nov 30 #6

Yes, exactly Beatlelvr Nov 30 #12

We are all forgotten eventually. Do you know the full names of your great grandparents? Scrivener7 Nov 30 #19

I'm one of the genealogy geeks in the family. Staph Nov 30 #26

It saddens me that you think of yourself as a "dead end branch." Scrivener7 Dec 1 #33

Hey Staph, True Dough Nov 30 #24

I can sure relate... Fyrefox Nov 30 #7

Thank you for your post Beatlelvr Nov 30 #14

Considering therapy is always a good idea yobrault1 Nov 30 #8

Those sound like good ideas. Beatlelvr Nov 30 #15

Let me take your questions one at a time.... anciano Nov 30 #13

I'm thankful for DU also! Beatlelvr Nov 30 #16

I have kids, grandkids, and still feel blue ar holiday time. Bmoboy Nov 30 #17

My closest family drmeow Nov 30 #18

I hope you feel better. Maybe you have pets to focus on or start a project. tazcat Nov 30 #20

I miss being a nurse, I'd work all the holidays and get holiday pay Warpy Nov 30 #21

I'm alone. But I'm a loner. ... littlemissmartypants Nov 30 #22

Love you back! Beatlelvr Nov 30 #28

TY ❤️ littlemissmartypants Dec 1 #31

Maybe try this for Christmas AverageOldGuy Nov 30 #23

Why do you think Americans started making football the center of Thanksgiving? mtngirl47 Nov 30 #25

Actually, I DO knit and crochet Beatlelvr Nov 30 #27

Hey--have you watched the new Beatles Anthology on Disney? mtngirl47 Nov 30 #30

Old, divorced, no kids, I no longer get invited to holiday gatherings Ocelot II Nov 30 #29

Yes,somewhat similar Calico20 Dec 1 #32

Married with no kids, and that would be us if our family lived closer. tanyev Dec 1 #34

My sis is a widow with no children Diamond_Dog Dec 1 #35