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blubunyip

(318 posts)
115. You gave him your truth
Tue Jun 23, 2026, 10:21 PM
Yesterday

that's the best you can do for him right now. You did what's right for you. Trying to re-educate him is useless and makes it worse. He knows how much you disagree with his views, how strongly you feel, but his brain's been hijacked. He's joined the Cult, for whatever reason, and there's nothing to do but accept that for now. I'd say the ball is in his court. Don't push. Don't try to heal anything or crowd him, or make challenging statements or ultimatums. The time has come to simply wait. patiently, quietly. Wait for him to come out of his delusion and change course. There's every chance that he will wake up one day and reconciling may be possible. Allow space for that. A support group is a good idea.

That's my advice. Know that you are not alone. Thanks for your post.

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. Baitball Blogger Yesterday #1
Heartbroken for you. I've had family members I had to avoid but not a child. Wishing for you peace ❤️‍🩹 Deuxcents Yesterday #2
he has no redeeming qualities to justify continued contact? msongs Yesterday #3
of course he does hookaleft Yesterday #6
He sees it. GCG 13 hrs ago #152
You should keep your relationship with him creeksneakers2 11 hrs ago #159
I hope there's eventually some reconciliation. Torchlight Yesterday #4
It is me hookaleft Yesterday #7
This message was self-deleted by its author Brenda Yesterday #96
Perhaps someone for whom proper grammar and punctuation are niyad Yesterday #119
My son is red pilling. RandySF Yesterday #5
I have a sister I had to let go. pnwmom Yesterday #101
Mine is afraid to call me. Nor have I contacted her. ProudMNDemocrat 15 hrs ago #141
I know that this can be very painful senseandsensibility Yesterday #8
Same buzzycrumbhunger Yesterday #98
I'm so, so sorry. This has to be so hard. Biophilic Yesterday #9
I can't imagine progressoid Yesterday #10
I would never cut off a son because he voted different than me Melon Yesterday #11
It's more than a difference of opinion Blue Full Moon Yesterday #14
This. It is a question of morality. travelingthrulife 13 hrs ago #153
Agree 100% SCantiGOP Yesterday #15
this has nothing to do with voting hookaleft Yesterday #25
Nahhhh...,it Trump will be gone in 3 years Melon Yesterday #38
You think this is it?? Wait till November. hookaleft Yesterday #42
You don't get it, not a bit BunnyMcGee Yesterday #121
krasnov has no intention of going anywhere, and he is implementing niyad 23 hrs ago #123
Lots of parents of Nazis probably felt the same way you do. Some of us draw a line against sadism or treason nt lostnfound 7 hrs ago #171
Can I ask, how old is your son? Dan Yesterday #77
This message was self-deleted by its author Brenda Yesterday #97
and if they had the whole racist, misogynistic, homophobic, stopdiggin Yesterday #29
With all due respect, this is more than voting different Joinfortmill Yesterday #30
My son would quit calling me if he were a dumb Magat because,, mdbl Yesterday #31
Myself Timewas Yesterday #56
really. how is one supposed to live with someone evincing such toxic and hateful views ? stopdiggin 22 hrs ago #129
Exactly n/t Timewas 22 hrs ago #134
My son was MAGA for kacekwl Yesterday #73
I cut off my "family" because of this FoxNewsSucks Yesterday #117
That is unfortunate. It's going to be hard to fix this. maxsolomon Yesterday #12
Post removed Post removed Yesterday #13
Interesting you should use the phrase "hatred of trump". Biophilic Yesterday #17
Okay Manatee Yesterday #21
The son the OP raised grew up to be a depraved magat. BannonsLiver Yesterday #26
I know a woman on FB who is a big Dem and recently found out her daughter is a full-on MAGAt LymphocyteLover 16 hrs ago #139
Not seeing that in the OP. Permanut Yesterday #27
how about overwhelming disgust for core values? work better? stopdiggin Yesterday #34
Like cutting off a gay son by a repub? Melon Yesterday #120
if you choose .... But are you really trying to draw equivalencies stopdiggin 23 hrs ago #128
He didn't say any of that. You're fantasizing to dream up the worst case scenario. Melon 22 hrs ago #135
I'm sorry my friend. But I don't consider Nazis and KKK to be just 'different political beliefs' stopdiggin 20 hrs ago #136
My kids don't have those beliefs. The vast majority of people do not. Melon 14 hrs ago #147
continue to believe that MAGA is just 'another set of poitical belief' if that makes you feel better stopdiggin 12 hrs ago #155
The adult child doesn't agree with them politically Melon 10 hrs ago #163
I don't think being gay is a 'value' but instead biology ands genetics Torchlight 10 hrs ago #166
It is not just the hatred of Trump hookaleft Yesterday #40
Is your fear Manatee Yesterday #43
that is none of your business hookaleft Yesterday #45
It is depressing to think the daughter I raised BarbD Yesterday #84
BULLSHIT! I say bluestarone Yesterday #41
That is Manatee Yesterday #44
Again BULL:SHIT!! bluestarone Yesterday #46
Sounds serious Torchlight Yesterday #49
Bullshit nonsense. Family can go to hell if they're selfish, etc. n/t SheilaAnn Yesterday #53
Not always. Shared DNA can't be the only reason for maintaining a relationship Ocelot II Yesterday #59
I think this is a nuanced view... electric_blue68 Yesterday #89
Not so much.... sfdennis1 Yesterday #93
What utter tosh, pure and simple. Celerity Yesterday #94
utter nonsense! and flabby and facile rote nonsense at that. stopdiggin 22 hrs ago #132
men can be soooo gullible. my bro was anti-trump, but he is republikkklan to the bone. pansypoo53219 Yesterday #16
Leave the door open a crack WhatTheFlux Yesterday #18
That may be all you can do. calimary Yesterday #91
I would contact him again , ask him gently, to walk you through what is Ars Longa Yesterday #110
My older sister & her entire family are MAGA as well Pas-de-Calais Yesterday #19
Hard to make new friends in this world. multigraincracker Yesterday #39
So your sister does get to discuss politics Blaukraut 15 hrs ago #142
Why did you "have to"? WhiskeyGrinder Yesterday #20
Because her emotional range doesn't fit in a teaspoon. Nt lostnfound 7 hrs ago #172
I am so very sorry. TNNurse Yesterday #22
This must be so hard for you. Hugs. Joinfortmill Yesterday #23
I understand. ananda Yesterday #24
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. calimary Yesterday #28
So Very Sorry 😔 Chicagogrl1 Yesterday #32
My BFF of 36 years cut me off because I wasn't a MAGAt. OMGWTF Yesterday #33
Ohhh, boy...sound like it. So sorry. electric_blue68 Yesterday #92
I am so sorry. PittBlue Yesterday #35
Wow. I have siblings and nieces/nephews I cut off because they're the same way . . . CousinIT Yesterday #36
I'm sorry to hear of this divide. badhair77 Yesterday #37
Pox News has been The Wizard Yesterday #47
Hugs... radical noodle Yesterday #48
You are so very kind MorbidButterflyTat Yesterday #63
The "space" people speak of here will be provided by time GenThePerservering Yesterday #50
You "chose to" not "had to" TheProle Yesterday #51
Not the route I would go either. chia 10 hrs ago #162
I cannot begin to imagine the pain you are feeling right now, but niyad Yesterday #52
This too will pass.... FarPoint Yesterday #54
Trump wins Turbineguy Yesterday #55
Sometime you must do what must be done The Grand Illuminist Yesterday #74
No. Those 'relatives' chose behaviors and values - that made them unacceptable as stopdiggin 22 hrs ago #133
Not necessarily. marble falls 7 hrs ago #173
Sorry to be that guy relayerbob Yesterday #57
Only non-Christians voted for Trump? Mariana 23 hrs ago #126
I am so sorry. bamagal62 Yesterday #58
Tough situation BeneteauBum Yesterday #60
So sorry for this very real loss LatteLady Yesterday #61
It sucks Chi67 Yesterday #62
Sorry for your loss Soul_of_Wit Yesterday #64
I don't know what to say other than I'm sorry MustLoveBeagles Yesterday #65
So sorry! There's no way actual Cha Yesterday #66
So sorry! There's no way actual Cha Yesterday #67
I recently learned about "The Let Them Theory" by Mel Robbins.... anciano Yesterday #68
There is help. SusieCreamcheese Yesterday #69
Sometimes we have to make painful choices to protect our mental health MorbidButterflyTat Yesterday #70
Going along to get along is not always the best choice Bluestocking Yesterday #71
War is hell The Grand Illuminist Yesterday #72
I often think about this . . . SusieCreamcheese Yesterday #75
I don't post here much, but I'm sorry you're going through this. nt HowlingWulf Yesterday #76
Sad Mysterian Yesterday #78
I am so sorry. He's full into the cult. Take care, ED Evolve Dammit Yesterday #79
If you want to keep contact wih your son, you have to cut him off Warpy Yesterday #80
All those wasted dollars on his education! Trueblue Texan Yesterday #81
I also choose not to associate with Nazis JoseBalow Yesterday #82
I had to cut my brother off when he Luciferous Yesterday #83
Damn... OldBaldy1701E Yesterday #85
so sorry for your loss and his loss too Shellback Squid Yesterday #86
Your family's affairs are none of my business, but I hope you can keep the lines of communication open, despite Vogon_Glory Yesterday #87
I get it, and I'm so sorry you had to choose to do this to Ilsa Yesterday #88
"" AllaN01Bear Yesterday #90
No judgement here, I don't know you. But I told MAGA family that I care about that we won't be discussing politics. FascismIsDeath Yesterday #95
MAGA and family ties lindalou65 Yesterday #99
So sorry! Such a tough situation..... electric_blue68 Yesterday #100
Your response wasn't malicious. You just had enough and needed to no_hypocrisy Yesterday #102
so sorry Be The Light Yesterday #103
I'm glad you have so many good replies FullySupportDems Yesterday #104
I have a daughter who voted for him Tree Lady Yesterday #105
I'm sorry Bettie Yesterday #106
I am so sorry mgardener Yesterday #107
I'm sorry ecstatic Yesterday #108
My son voted for Trump twice. He's no longer on the Trump train. Seeking Serenity Yesterday #109
Why even send him the links, or bring up politics at all? Polybius Yesterday #111
Change your will and explain why you disinherited him kimbutgar Yesterday #112
My cousins that l grew up with all support Trump, they know how l feel... Raine Yesterday #113
You should not cut him off hueymahl Yesterday #114
Family is not always more important. See #59. Ocelot II Yesterday #116
This TheProle Yesterday #118
You gave him your truth blubunyip Yesterday #115
i am so sorry that your son has been cut off but sometimes you have to do what is right for you as the dawn5651 23 hrs ago #122
Wow, that's rough. hamsterjill 23 hrs ago #124
So sorry. It must be awful to lose him that way. 58Sunliner 23 hrs ago #125
I'm so sorry. HeartsCanHope 23 hrs ago #127
How very sad. So sorry you are going through that, hookaleft! summer_in_TX 22 hrs ago #130
I can almost hear my crazy grandma's voice speaking from the void. hunter 22 hrs ago #131
Never underestimate the potential for perversity of family members. Aussie105 19 hrs ago #137
Before my sister died KT2000 19 hrs ago #138
Minor point but does he not know how to count? Because 2028 would be the 4th time that miserable POS is on the ballot LymphocyteLover 16 hrs ago #140
Many in the cult are saying they will vote for Trmp in 2028. Yes, that means a third term. eppur_se_muova 7 hrs ago #174
Anyway you slice it, it's fucked up LymphocyteLover 4 hrs ago #175
Understable as long as you have no expectations Blaukraut 15 hrs ago #143
Mary Lincoln disowned her brothers who fought for the Confederacy. NNadir 15 hrs ago #144
Sorry for your loss but... orangecrush 14 hrs ago #145
send him this azureblue 14 hrs ago #146
Sending these kind of repeated emails likely caused him to lash out stronger....... Melon 9 hrs ago #167
I am so sorry. This must be agonizing mainer 13 hrs ago #148
I am sort of amazed at how little sympathy some have to spare for you. I'd probably feel the way you do. eppur_se_muova 13 hrs ago #149
I feel the same pity for such people... returnee 13 hrs ago #150
He could be putting you on. Probably not though. Nt BootinUp 13 hrs ago #151
Youngest daughter returned to her faith a month ago duckworth969 13 hrs ago #154
I am so sorry. I'm in a similar position with a sister . . . markpkessinger 12 hrs ago #156
Maga are liars MW67 12 hrs ago #157
bitter disappointment Paul-EM 12 hrs ago #158
I had to watch Fox News turn my parents into raving right wingers. I sympathize. Martin68 11 hrs ago #160
Sorry to hear.. purr-rat beauty 11 hrs ago #161
Christian? Being Christian is about loving one's neighbor. dedl67 10 hrs ago #164
This is regrettable, but your son OWES YOU an apology FakeNoose 10 hrs ago #165
I hope and pray that Trump will be allowed to run for a third term. ... JustABozoOnThisBus 9 hrs ago #168
Post removed Post removed 8 hrs ago #169
Library Girl, enjoy your stay. Emile 8 hrs ago #170
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