General Discussion

I wasn't there and have no idea what I would have done in that neighbor's shoes.

All I'm saying is that once somebody calls 911, they've handed control of the situation over to people with guns. Those people may or may not know how to deescalate. They may or may not make the situation better. Their goal is probably different from that of the person who called 911.

Sometimes you get a calm, professional, well-trained officer who overcomes their understandable fear of responding to a potentially lethal domestic incident. And sometimes you don't.