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NNadir

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28. I'm I man and I would never leave a person in distress behind unless it was to get help...
Tue Apr 14, 2026, 09:33 AM
Apr 14

...for a situation I was unable to manage alone.

Before I met my wife I had many unhappy relationships that ended in a conversation, sometimes psychologically hurtful (in either direction) but never, ever, in situations involving physical distress.

One of my ex-girlfriends was a gay woman exploring heterosexuality, perhaps for business reasons. I really liked her, almost to the point of falling in love, but the reason I gave up on it was that her circle of friends, all gay women, could not refrain from discussing men as evil caricatures. They did this in my presence, and I took it, correctly I think, as an expression of personal contempt for my presence.

I don't believe I know any men, unless I'm missing something, who would do such a thing.

I love my wife more than I will ever be able to express in words, but I wouldn't need such love as that to assure the safety of a mere acquaintance in such a setting.

This article is journalistic click baiting.

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People need self-awareness and recognition of boundaries. bucolic_frolic Apr 13 #1
It seems that people in many areas are no longer being taught to care for each other, just take care of yourself... wcmagumba Apr 13 #2
As a man, I can confidently say I'd never abandon my partner like that in a million years, not for Musk's fortune... Dave says Apr 13 #3
That's the way I feel. No matter the horrible argument, get back safely and then say the sayanoras. erronis Apr 13 #8
Never Cirsium Apr 13 #15
It's not "men"; it's "some men". maxsolomon Apr 13 #4
Of course "NOT ALL MEN" but it is a male problem. Coventina Apr 13 #5
Testosterone. maxsolomon Apr 13 #6
Maybe not all but a big hunk of it. efhmc Apr 13 #7
It can go both ways... BeneteauBum Apr 13 #12
Not about meeting criteria Cirsium Apr 13 #17
Competitive sailing can be dangerous BeneteauBum Apr 13 #22
Women have levels slightlv Apr 13 #18
DEFINITELY!!! calimary Apr 13 #9
Lack of love, plain and simple. patphil Apr 13 #10
People make my head and heart hurt EdmondDantes_ Apr 13 #11
Dale Carnegie suggested going canoeing with a lover before marrying them IronLionZion Apr 13 #13
This is a form of deadly abuse ms.pamela Apr 13 #14
Dominance Nasruddin Apr 13 #16
Another male checking in.. Permanut Apr 13 #19
I find this saddening more than anything. harumph Apr 13 #20
I think in general people need to be more conscientious meadowlander Apr 13 #21
If he abandons you anywhere... Iggo Apr 13 #23
A person who is taller has a longer stride. milestogo Apr 13 #24
Amazing Cirsium Apr 13 #25
This message was self-deleted by its author PeaceWave Apr 13 #26
Here's an earlier article from The Guardian: hunter Apr 14 #27
I'm I man and I would never leave a person in distress behind unless it was to get help... NNadir Apr 14 #28
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