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Ocelot II

(130,147 posts) Wed Mar 4, 2026, 11:09 AM 20 hrs ago

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So I just got this email from an in-law: [View all]

Subject line: "Glad i left 26 yrs ago"
"What a shit hole, Mn has become. A real shame," with links to racist and false YouTube videos about Somalis.

I haven't spoken to this nasty old bat in those 26 years since she moved to Arkansas, and I don't know why she sent me this crap. She said years ago that she moved to AR to get away from high taxes and black people. What upsets me that this rhymes-with-witch is married to an actual relative with whom I am on good terms, but who seems to be the original source of the YouTube links. My blood pressure went through the roof when I read it and my first impulse to respond with a comment like "I'm glad you left, too," with links to US News and Wallet Hub ranking the states (MN #4 vs. AR #44, https://www.usnews.com/news/best-states/rankings, and MN #5 vs. AR #48, https://wallethub.com/edu/best-states-to-live-in/62617), but I suspect that said nasty old bat is trying to stir the pot. I am deeply disappointed in the relative and angry at his nasty old bat wife but life is too short; I know that mine isn't the shit hole state, and my Somali neighbors are better people than she is. I deleted the email.

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So I just got this email from an in-law: [View all] Ocelot II 20 hrs ago OP

She got away from black people by moving to Arkansas? Norrrm 20 hrs ago #1

She's in the northern part of the state in a county that's about 1% minority. Ocelot II 20 hrs ago #2

Sundown town, eh? Norrrm 15 hrs ago #39

Fraud is a crime and should be handled in a court of law Walleye 20 hrs ago #3

The fraud in question has been handled in court and a bunch of people Ocelot II 20 hrs ago #5

Well, it's stupid and Republican to blame all Somali refugees for crimes of a few Walleye 19 hrs ago #10

Those are two good facts. I'd send it. CrispyQ 20 hrs ago #4

I'm ignoring it, which will probably bug her more than any response I could provide. Ocelot II 20 hrs ago #7

Remember George Bernard Shaw Randomthought 19 hrs ago #23

You can't fix stupid. Katinfl 15 hrs ago #40

Dear Ocelot UpInArms 20 hrs ago #6

Sorry, but your response was appropriate. pandr32 19 hrs ago #8

My final response was no response at all except to delete the email. Ocelot II 19 hrs ago #9

Being a void to her vindictive posts is a good choice IMO irisblue 19 hrs ago #12

Sometimes silence is the very best Fuck You. Ocelot II 19 hrs ago #14

You consider creating a file to transfer her hate screeds to? irisblue 19 hrs ago #20

Not worth the effort. He's probably lost now too. Ocelot II 19 hrs ago #21

I'm sorry for your disappointment. pandr32 19 hrs ago #13

The best choice! niyad 19 hrs ago #16

Based on my own life, Dear_Prudence 18 hrs ago #32

LOL popsdenver 18 hrs ago #33

Good one blue_jay 7 hrs ago #56

If she ever asks you if you read the email, tell it it's probably in your Spam folder. nt Ilsa 18 hrs ago #35

You absolutely did the right thing. Katinfl 15 hrs ago #41

Yes, don't feed the trolls BWdem4life 19 hrs ago #11

The trolls that should be fed the least are the ones you know. Ocelot II 19 hrs ago #15

Awwww, can't we feed them to the alligators? or to whatever lives in the bayous? niyad 19 hrs ago #17

Forget about it AverageOldGuy 19 hrs ago #18

I've done exactly that. This mean old troll isn't getting fed. Ocelot II 19 hrs ago #22

My advice in these situations is always - don't engage. Hit delete and go about your day. flashman13 19 hrs ago #19

I did. Ocelot II 19 hrs ago #28

Wouldn't a good response be Quanto Magnus 19 hrs ago #24

I have one like that. mn9driver 19 hrs ago #25

DO NOT RESPOND. If you respond she wins. 617Blue 19 hrs ago #26

I did not respond, for exactly that reason. Ocelot II 19 hrs ago #27

She should check the relative standard of living and education levels of Arkansas. vs MN viva la 19 hrs ago #29

Delete is your friend. Clouds Passing 19 hrs ago #30

I used to think that not responding to people like that was the correct thing to do, you know, the higher road but Escurumbele 18 hrs ago #31

It's really difficult to hear such stupidity from people you respected mdbl 18 hrs ago #34

Afraid I wouldn't have been able to restrain myself relayerbob 17 hrs ago #36

Smart move. AltairIV 17 hrs ago #37

There is no harm in sending her factual information like the rankings of MN vrs AR. I think we should be educating Maraya1969 16 hrs ago #38

Waste of time. Ocelot II 14 hrs ago #43

The GOP doesn't say things like, "It's a waste of time" and that is one of the reasons they keep their talking points. Maraya1969 14 hrs ago #44

This isn't political, it's personal and has nothing to do with the GOP's methods. Ocelot II 14 hrs ago #45

Reply with facts KT2000 15 hrs ago #42

remind your in-laws of the facts. SleeplessinSoCal 14 hrs ago #46

My grandparents, parents and family have lived in MN for their entire lives (it is a well run state with decent people). waterwatcher123 14 hrs ago #47

Not responding was the correct choice. OldBaldy1701E 14 hrs ago #48

My MIL used to send crap like that. debsy 13 hrs ago #49

I'm sorry this happened to you. HeartsCanHope 12 hrs ago #50

My suggestion is that you should ignore this obvious provocation FakeNoose 9 hrs ago #51

Exactly. I haven't actually seen her or spoken with her in many years, since she left the state, Ocelot II 9 hrs ago #53

That email? Aussie105 9 hrs ago #52

Hey, Ocelot II, you're in better company right here. calimary 7 hrs ago #54

Silence speaks a thousand words to someone who seeks affirmation. Aussie105 7 hrs ago #55