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32. I try not to go negative. That's why I said "lazy"

Mon Feb 9, 2026, 03:39 PM

Feb 9

If I move to either city where I have friends, both exactly 50 miles away, would I be "rewarding" their intransigience?

I really try to think of rewarding myself instead. I can only control myself Abe my feelings. I am at the 50 miles away place now. Snow is predicted for my mountain home a week out, so I have to call for propane tobe topped off. It never snows in the valley. Snow is semi-rare here. About twice a year. One year, 2 feet fell at home, wrecking branches and toppling trees not suited to that load. It merely rained in the valley. No big deal, and I got snow photos from previous years. People ooh and aah at them and stay put.

I will go where it's good for me. Friends are friends, even lazy ones. They can gawk at my photos and know what they missed. I missed a lot, too, but I can't carry that in my backpack. Life's too short, and I am calculating what I can gain, and share, even when they made it hard to do. Or share with others, new friends, farther away. Hopefully closer to my daughter and SIL

Distance makes it hard to help them, and they mean the most.

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I want to help. [View all] OldBaldy1701E Feb 7 OP

It sounds to me like you are being too hard on yourself senseandsensibility Feb 7 #1

That seems to be the issue. OldBaldy1701E Feb 8 #10

Look in Blue Sky, and other websites, for content to applegrove Feb 7 #2

Thanks. OldBaldy1701E Feb 8 #7

This is a favourite of mine. It is hopeful. applegrove Feb 8 #17

That was very interesting. OldBaldy1701E Feb 9 #18

This is why I have turned to ART in my life! For some reason, art always saves you. CTyankee Feb 9 #21

As a former artist, I agree with you. OldBaldy1701E Feb 9 #23

I don't think you're alone Cirsium Feb 9 #27

You are correct in saying that what I am raising is more about social and structural issues. OldBaldy1701E Feb 9 #29

I hear you Cirsium Feb 9 #33

"But I do think this kind of honest conversation is closer to help than we usually think." OldBaldy1701E Feb 10 #34

I bet you know enough people that if you asked five of them to pitch in five bucks and each ask five friends to do the WhiskeyGrinder Feb 7 #3

Unfortunately, you would lose that bet. OldBaldy1701E Feb 8 #6

You've got 11 hearts on here. If you made a post asking people to throw five bucks at their local food shelf in addition WhiskeyGrinder Feb 8 #15

Barely. OldBaldy1701E Feb 9 #19

It sounds like you are toying with ending it all. 1WorldHope Feb 7 #4

I have been toying with that for most of my entire life. OldBaldy1701E Feb 8 #8

I hear you. I feel hopeless much of the time myself. 1WorldHope Feb 8 #12

You can help. Everyone can help in some way. You don't have to be on the front lines. Ocelot II Feb 7 #5

What is interesting is that I am also in need of most of what is listed there. OldBaldy1701E Feb 8 #9

You can write! You're good at it. Ocelot II Feb 8 #11

Even a small act of kindness helps and can be enough to get someone moving. haele Feb 8 #13

Thanks. Unfortunately, I am the one stuck in 'dissonance'. OldBaldy1701E Feb 9 #22

I feel like my 3x collective Greats who in the early 18th century, settled in hollars in haele Feb 9 #24

You are correct. OldBaldy1701E Feb 9 #30

This time It's a lot more than standing on the street waving cardboard. Hope22 Feb 9 #26

Thanks for the kind words. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Feb 9 #31

I have been living alone for over 10 years. usonian Feb 8 #14

It seems as though you are connected to the land. I have known others in your position. OldBaldy1701E Feb 9 #20

Thank you, I say, especially about tech: "It's still a world of people. Just not here." usonian Feb 9 #25

This is so correct. OldBaldy1701E Feb 9 #28

I try not to go negative. That's why I said "lazy" usonian Feb 9 #32

Walk for Peace videos are an Eye Opener MagickMuffin Feb 8 #16