General Discussion

If I move to either city where I have friends, both exactly 50 miles away, would I be "rewarding" their intransigience?

I really try to think of rewarding myself instead. I can only control myself Abe my feelings. I am at the 50 miles away place now. Snow is predicted for my mountain home a week out, so I have to call for propane tobe topped off. It never snows in the valley. Snow is semi-rare here. About twice a year. One year, 2 feet fell at home, wrecking branches and toppling trees not suited to that load. It merely rained in the valley. No big deal, and I got snow photos from previous years. People ooh and aah at them and stay put.

I will go where it's good for me. Friends are friends, even lazy ones. They can gawk at my photos and know what they missed. I missed a lot, too, but I can't carry that in my backpack. Life's too short, and I am calculating what I can gain, and share, even when they made it hard to do. Or share with others, new friends, farther away. Hopefully closer to my daughter and SIL

Distance makes it hard to help them, and they mean the most.