I don’t think you’re alone — I think you’re just saying out loud what many are feeling but aren’t comfortable naming. When the people least exposed to the consequences are the ones urging patience, restraint, or “wait and see,” that disconnect is real, and it’s enraging. Especially for people who’ve been warning about this for years and are now watching it unfold exactly as predicted. Anger doesn’t come from nowhere. It comes from being told, over and over, that your fear is an overreaction — right up until it isn’t.
People may not agree with every conclusion you’re drawing, but your frustration makes sense, and I don’t read your post as irrational at all. It reads like someone who feels unheard, cornered, and tired of being asked to accept the costs so others can preserve comfort and control. You’re not crazy for being angry. And you’re not the only one seeing it this way.
I want to flag something I’m seeing happen in this thread.
What you’re raising is a social and structural argument — about power, exposure to risk, and who bears the consequences of system-level decisions. A lot of the replies are responding with personal coping advice, which may be well-intentioned, but I think it misses the point you’re making.
Advice about managing anger, stress, or expectations doesn’t really address the underlying issue you’re describing — which is that different groups experience this situation very differently depending on their socioeconomic position, and that difference shapes what “reasonable” responses even look like.
Just to say — I don’t read this as merely a request for personal advice. It reads as a critique of how structural decisions affect different groups differently. Responses from people at that level might be more useful.
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