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15. You are not aware of parameters of what data she can process or not process and I would never ..

Reply to Irish_Dem (Reply #14)

Wed Dec 17, 2025, 11:26 PM

Dec 17

… give her information that I thought for a billionth of second would hurt her …. Sometimes reality
is real and I don’t think anything I would tell her would cause stress on her I don’t think she could
handle. She is going fast into a great good night and I try to ease her change. I have a good friend
that does hospice work and I am going to ask her to become part of her care team as per quality of
life issues and I will accept her opinions on what needs to be done.

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How do I tell my mother with dementia that [View all] Botany Dec 17 OP

If your mother has dementia, be kind and don't tell her. Even the rest of us can't understand it Deuxcents Dec 17 #1

Very well said. ZDU Dec 17 #2

I try to be good. Botany Dec 17 #5

How do we explain it to the kids? Srkdqltr Dec 17 #3

Why does she need to know? WarGamer Dec 17 #4

She used to want to know things ... Botany Dec 17 #6

Just me... I wouldn't introduce stress. WarGamer Dec 17 #7

I agree. It is too stressful and serves no purpose. Irish_Dem Dec 17 #9

90% + of the things I say to her don't stick. I am talking to the disease not to her most of the time. Botany Dec 17 #11

I would keep the conversation light and cheerful. Irish_Dem Dec 17 #12

She was and still is in little patches of mental clarity very smart. She does not need to be talked down to. Botany Dec 17 #13

I am not saying talk down to her. Irish_Dem Dec 17 #14

You are not aware of parameters of what data she can process or not process and I would never .. Botany Dec 17 #15

Bad or stressful news spikes cortisol levels which loads on cognitive impairment. Irish_Dem Dec 18 #16

t-rump can't stand anything Mr.Bee Dec 17 #8

You answered your own question when you said she had dementia.s NotHardly Dec 17 #10