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róisín_dubh

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35. My sister was like this when...

Wed Dec 17, 2025, 10:05 PM

Dec 17

She was in her 20s. It enraged me to no end, because she had money thrown at her to keep her from being homeless or in jail, whilst I got fuck all from anyone despite holding down a job and studying for my Masters.
I never had kids in part because of her. She was such a horrific person because of her addiction and narcissism and I knew I could not love someone like that. Even if it was my own (I’m a deeply flawed person in other ways).
Then she got pregnant and when she ended up in jail, something odd happened- as my husband at the time prepared to possibly adopt the baby so it wouldn’t go into foster care- the judge used this as a teaching experience that, amazingly, worked. He released her. She had the baby. She stopped being a shithead junkie and thief and became a relatively normal (relatively is doing a lot of heavy lifting) human being.
She’s still a narcissist and her kids are going to need therapy. Her relationships with people are deeply problematic.
But she’s not a threat to anyone anymore.

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My sister was like this when... róisín_dubh Dec 17 #35

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