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love_katz

(3,230 posts)
33. Not every Boomer is the same.
Tue May 13, 2025, 10:52 PM
May 2025

I walked the uncommon road: I figured out by age 16 that I didn't want to have kids. I figured out at an early age that the whole television fantasy of having kids was the key to a happy life was a delusion and that the majority of the workload fell on the woman . My love for nature and grief for the lands destruction added to my many reasons to avoid breeding.
I didn't get a college education, and had to live as best I could on dead end low wage jobs with few or no benefits.
None of this makes me some kind of entitled person, who had everything handed to me on a silver platter, who wilfully went on a campaign to ruin life for future generations.
Like many people my age, I have fought for social justice and healing and restoration of the life support systems of our planet.
It really pisses me off to be accused of all that is wrong with our society. Maybe you are too young to have experienced what it was like to face off with the most powerful government of the richest country in the world? People in my parents generation wanted us shot and/or beaten and tear gassed by the cops and the military, because we dared to march and demonstrate against greed and injustice. The anniversary of the shootings at Kent State was May 4th, and the shootings at Jackson State just a few days later.
It's too bad that we couldn't fix everything that is wrong with the world, so that future generations wouldn't have to make any effort, but we didn't get handed a perfect society either.
My point is that it doesn't do any good to heap all the blame on one generation. The same bigots and greed heads who caused all the suffering and injustice back then are the same septic sacks of $hit who are supporting the regime and their drive for total dictatorship.
Not trying to be trite, but we're all stuck with trying to work together to push back against what seems like a juggernaut.

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none of my 5 kids has kids. mopinko May 2025 #1
I never had the desire. I always thought there are too many kids that needed adopting and plenty of families having chowder66 May 2025 #2
So many women tell their stories on Reddit..mom pushed me to have kids Demovictory9 May 2025 #9
i wonder how much is not finding a partner or mopinko May 2025 #10
#2 reason I didn't want kids musette_sf May 2025 #19
After divorce, some exes arent accustomed to being fully respponsible for their own kids Demovictory9 May 2025 #21
Only one of my 4 children has kids Mossfern May 2025 #44
i think our moms hid the cost. mopinko May 2025 #47
Message auto-removed Name removed May 2025 #57
I *am* a grandmother Mossfern May 2025 #58
I don't think having kids is a key to happiness Buckeyeblue May 2025 #3
We have to ratchet down the population from 8 billion Ritabert May 2025 #4
Gobally, yes, we have to lower the population, BUT . . . markpkessinger May 2025 #20
Whatever happens it will be gradual Ritabert May 2025 #22
People act like there is no way for anyone to move outside of a country's border travelingthrulife May 2025 #46
The answer to that is.... viva la May 2025 #53
We gave the decision a lot of reflection. Torchlight May 2025 #5
You may not want kids, but Trump and the radtrads at Project 2025... keep_left May 2025 #6
Vance might change his mind if THE MOTHER gets the kids' votes karynnj May 2025 #7
It isn't happening. valleyrogue May 2025 #13
You're certainly correct about that. I probably should have worded... keep_left May 2025 #16
Watching Saturday soccer in 95 degree heat lame54 May 2025 #8
It USED to be rewarding and enjoyable for families back in the day...... Ziggysmom May 2025 #11
No it wasn't. valleyrogue May 2025 #12
There were at least 3 women in our middle class neighborhood who were abused Ritabert May 2025 #14
Agree. When I was younger, a visiting neighbor (with two grown daughters) broke allegorical oracle May 2025 #41
We never wanted kids and, 50+ years later, never regretted it. Vinca May 2025 #15
Same here. GoCubsGo May 2025 #18
I forgot about the babysitting. I hated it too. Vinca May 2025 #25
"we're talking cats and dogs.." DBoon May 2025 #31
More rich, white, privileged whites just need to learn skills and get out of their gated communities and work! Jit423 May 2025 #17
What counts as "real work" in your mind? Hekate May 2025 #24
Or --and this is one reason the US ha remained young in age and vital in ideas --welcome immigrants... Hekate May 2025 #23
Trust me. Having children didn't make my parents happy at all. no_hypocrisy May 2025 #26
People are planning their lives, fearing the future now bucolic_frolic May 2025 #27
We used to call them... JPK May 2025 #28
Yeah, sure beats being a SITCOM: Singe income, two children, oppressive mortgage. Xavier Breath May 2025 #29
Researchers Say Earth Is Headed for "Jaw-Dropping" Population Decline Norrrm May 2025 #30
I await this with bated breath, seeing as how the Earth has over 8 billion humans on it... Hekate May 2025 #49
Everything these days seems to be "jaw dropping" GenThePerservering May 2025 #51
Nice to see an article not promoting the money-is-the-only-motivation-both-sides-bad-neoliberal betsuni May 2025 #32
Not every Boomer is the same. love_katz May 2025 #33
I was criticizing those blaming Democrats and Boomers for all the wrongs of society. betsuni May 2025 #34
Thank you. love_katz May 2025 #36
I don't understand this since the world is vastly overpopulated Meowmee May 2025 #35
A teacher for a psychology class made us question the reasons people give in favor of having kids. love_katz May 2025 #37
What should alarm everyone here k_buddy762 May 2025 #38
Never had kids because I didn't think I'd be a good enough mom. But have been allegorical oracle May 2025 #39
What a stupid and insulting thing to say to another woman. Diamond_Dog May 2025 #40
Me either. Irony is that both of those women had horrible marriages in which allegorical oracle May 2025 #43
Sounds like they were jealous GenThePerservering May 2025 #50
My wife and I didn't have children Johnny2X2X May 2025 #42
What nonsense. There are 8 billion people in the world. There are people begging to be travelingthrulife May 2025 #45
The best reason there is. I don't want to. Mason Williams Ping Tung May 2025 #48
Not sure we need he 2.1 kids for the economy once AI comes into play. Pisces May 2025 #52
I think one important aspect of this campaign to encourage people to senseandsensibility May 2025 #54
I never wanted kids. Never felt any intense leftyladyfrommo May 2025 #55
Yes, it's your life and your decision senseandsensibility May 2025 #56
Some women prefer to use their brains more than their crotches synni May 2025 #59
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