"ba ha ha ha ha."

Jeez, it's a freakin' door. Maybe I'm just accustomed to it- the one who gets to the door first usually holds it. Gender doesn't even enter into it.

Some people must have very fragile self-esteem.

the door for the person behind them. I think opening the door for "the weaker sex" went the way of the fedora and the girdle.

It makes no sense. Over my 43 years, I've had many an opportunity to hold doors open for others at all sorts of events that I was going through to myself, and men, women, kids... everyone holds doors open for each other and have for quite a long time. I've never seen anything untoward about it, whether at a store, the movies, school events... It's like they must be searching these kinds of people out or are just lucky enough to find them each time.

It seems to be a favorite derailing tactic. Makes me wonder if their might be a surgical procedure for removing a door from ones' craw.

It's just the polite thing to do. When somebody holds a door for me, I say, "Thank you."

Gender has nothing to do with it. We are in the 21st century, right?

oh yeah ...

and

Doors!

to avoid that.

I'll continue to do it - I don't care what anyone says, I'm not about to let a door slap anyone in the face. It's just simple politeness and kindness, and we are supposed to live in civil society, so it makes perfect sense to hold doors open for others.

BWAAAAHahahahahahahaha!

I want to post it everywhere. Can I? I'll give you credit. I probably can't wait for permission. Okay, I already posted it once, but I want to post it another time.

I do site my source. Footnotes are everything.

Do you want to do the honors with TSS?

if you know what I mean...

Actually I'm not a big fan of posting pics/memes instead of taking the time to write out a cogent post, but in this case I make a big exception - a DOUBLE DOOR sized exception.

what you mean about it being unlikely to come up again, so maybe we should let it lie.

I mean that Bains Bane has used it already and I do think that the meme should be used at will when the stupid DOORS thing comes up in order to mock it!

It's a lot better than yet another picture of another scarecrow.

Now we have to get gay married.

Know what we do? The doors to the stairs--We give the door a extra "push". So whoever is a second or two behind can grab it---gender means nothing. People in wheelchairs or other devices or have children have precedence in the entry doors-- which are automatic.

Occasional you'll find a polite women or male open the for for a crowd of nurses or Residents obviously headed in the same general direction. I have experience such politeness by both women and men.
I hold doors open for people all the time. It's called "courtesy"

I don't get the door thing. Why some guy would hold open a door in the name of gender, but not courtesy?

It's just a door. Whoever gets there first holds it open. Don't stress. It's only a fucking door!

I see the tuffs are beginning to swarm Bjorn's thread to discredit the issues the OP is addressing. So very clever to insinuate that the recs are coming from sock puppets, don't you think. Of course, that may be strictly for the benefit of anyone who hasn't yet caught on to their agenda.

Desperation is the mother of invention.

No shock about who the poster was.

when it's a door of perception.

me me me, i did it.

i have to admit. i am the "door" issue woman. totally my bad.

i just did not know that men held onto this cry of DA DOORS. "da doors. i hold a door open for a woman and she has a melt down. THAT is what feminism gives us". i didnt know. has never been in my life. never heard a man flip out over it. never saw a woman have a melt down over a man holding the door open. OMG... i even taught my very young boys to hold doors open for all. they loved the experience of independence going into the convenient store at 5 and beyond, by themselves... they would struggle opening that ole door and then wait and wait and wait holding it open for anyone that appeared they may be approaching that door. until i would finally yell at them to GET IN THAT STORE and let that door go. it was a hoot. and loved it. the boys would have a blast and the little old ladies would melt all over them. well, there you go. i guess that is a different version of a melt down, but it was all in beauty, kindness, fun.

i was totally clueless.

when i walked into the thread of benevolent sexism and a poster asked what it was, i put little thought into my post. i gotta admit. cause i was pretty sure the man didnt give a shit. and he didnt. so i thru out a couple fast, non thinking examples. easy to grasp. opening doors, holding out a chair. you know. women can open a door, and they can seat themselves without help. i held no judgment on these acts. simple example, only. and i did give a thorough definition and link to more indepth thought on benevolent sexism. and boom... that was it. the end.

all about da doors.

how many years has it been?

no one ever talks about the other example holding the chair for a woman.

so.... my bad. didnt know this was gonna end some people world, simply saying, da doors. my bad.

nobody talks about that because it is totally antiquated and people don't do it anymore except maybe a maître d at a fancy restaurant.
Everybody holds doors for each other all the time so some people can say *well, in my experience women have been bent out of shape because I held a DOOR for them* and that's kind of hard to dispute except for to say that it's not your experience.

IOW it'd be silly to say *women get all bent out of shape when I hold the chair for her* because well, nobody does that anymore.

ETA - I think I'm going to shout DOOR every time I type it from now on

but I couldn't find a funny enough bear.