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This is an essay by Paulina Pinksy that was mentioned this morning on GMA. She is the daughter of Dr Drew (I've heard his name often in passing, know he is famous but not really what he is about):
We were driving back from a family dinner at a posh Los Angeles restaurant, the kind whose clientele doesnt dare to touch the breadbaskets. My mother could not stop blabbing about the owners of her gym, because thats what you do when your daughter is home from her first year of college: One time I went to dinner with them and they both ate steak and one order of French fries. But they still look amazing. But they split the fries... I felt like I couldnt even hear her. My ability to listen to my mother talk about her gym owners had disappeared when I had hit rock bottom four months prior and had put myself into therapy. Purging eight times in one day to cope with the emotional stress of being home during spring break had finally scared me enough to take action. And here I was again, stuck in a car with her.
Without even thinking, the words erupted from my mouth.
Well Id rather have an over-eating disorder than an under-eating disorder.
She said, You dont mean that, to which I replied, Yes I do. Ive already had an under-eating one.
Without missing a beat, she responded, No, you havent.
I paused, but before I knew it, the words were out of my mouth. Yes, I have. Ive been throwing up since the seventh grade.
...
After a silence that lasted far too long, she responded.
Well, get your teeth checked.
http://www.columbiaspectator.com/eye/2013/11/13/get-your-teeth-checked
I thought this deserved a thread of its own. I have some thoughts about this conversation and will likely update when I get a break from work.
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NV Whino
(20,886 posts)The really good part of this story is both the mother and daughter have grown.
As for the teeth, cavity prone teeth are a result of the stomach acid from the bulimia. Even dedicated brushing after 13 years of bulimia may not help her.
There are other consequences as well. I had a friend who died from complications of a stomach ulcer. Which was itself a result of bulimia. That acid again, having been activated by eating but with no food to digest, begins to attack the lining of the stomach.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)Is that all, Mom? really? that is all you have to say regarding my condition? really?
seaglass
(8,181 posts)words and actions around my 24 yo daughter. Nothing like the mom's reactions or expectations but I wonder if in my own way if I have made comments in front of my daughter that is leading her to be so focused on her looks.
JustAnotherGen
(34,246 posts)Kind of hits home . . . In a lot of ways.