Why is the rapist always protected?

It's why so very many people try to blame women for everything they can. (e.g. A man beat a woman? Well what did she do to make him do that? or A man beat his children? Why didn't his wife stop that from happening? When often these women are terrorized, brutalized, and broken - often by their often fathers before they end up with similar men. It's at the root of every attempt to blame the victimized for the actions of the victimizers.)

Patriarchy established our hierarchical system. It is at the root of so much that ails the world.

preached to beat your wife "for the good of her moral soul." Look at slavery and racism, it's ingrained.

That takes slut shaming to a whole new level.

why the supervisor still has a job?

Is an excellent question

They would not even allow my father to walk her to his apartment in the same building because they thought he might take advantage of her. They had been married for 67 years and it was a good and very loving marriage. This was upsetting for my father because he thought she needed to get out of the unit and get some exercise, plus he really wanted to feed her lunch because she was not eating well. After lunch he wanted to take a short nap with her, something they had done every day for 30 years.

When the situation first developed us kids thought it was kind of amusing given the nature of their relationship so all of us talked to management and tried to convince them that he would be responsible and careful. Given that Alzheimer's patients sort of forget backwards we laughed to ourselves that if "it" happened it might transport her/them back in time and be a pleasant experience.

Eventually we (the kids) signed a written agreement that the facility would not be held responsible if something happened. My father was legally in charge (and wrote the big fat check every month) but they would not accept a hold harmless agreement from him because he was older than my mother.

We came to understand and appreciate the basic position of the facility which is that a patient with dementia can not give consent.

If it was a reasonable size. The mattresses had to be on the floor, because of fall risks, but it was sweet.


Also, by law-- we don't assume LTC residents and not sexual beings and if they both are able to consent, and it was a safe situation, we were supposed to provide privacy.

On the other hand one of our residents had a "boyfriend" who was caught taking advantage of her-- it's a rather ugly story.

It wasn't just the elderly either. In our rehab unit there was a young woman with a shattered shattered pelvis from a car accident and we caught her husband right on top of her and those broken bones. Had to call the police.

It's been years since I worked in LTC-- but boy I got stories

The locked Alzheimer unit is single bed/room unit. These are residents/patients who are in the end stages or the very late middle stage of the disease.


Also, by law-- we don't assume LTC residents and not sexual beings and if they both are able to consent, and it was a safe situation, we were supposed to provide privacy.

And he was was a rapist slacker

I understand they are lonely. I work with them.

Seems he spent some time building up trust with this woman.

We have a lot of elderly women who will Not allow men aides in their room at all either, because of modesty or because of past trauma from the hands of a man/men.

And elderly rape in LTC is more common than people think. Think one is dramatic. So it got picked up by news agencies. Plus the response of the facility was particularly vile.


We quite often have requests in the hospital for no males for the same reasons , occasionally no females, but they are SoL there usually

dealing with "old school" people. so, duh and derp.

The attacker should get life without parole.

Also, the victim was held on a 72 hour psych hold after reporting this, and was not given medical treatment for her injuries until after that ended, even though the rapist had admitted it.

"surely you can't be serious."

My mom is in assisted living. People have to realize that a lot of times, Alzheimer's patients will revert to a younger state of being. This woman was probably "flirty" because she was mentally a teenager. However, the staff should be trained to recognize this behavior and defuse it. NOT to take advantage of it!