My son-in law just died.
He was 52. My daughter is 35. They had been together for a few years, but only married for less than two years. This is so unfair.
He was a wonderful man, and they were very happy. He had a heart attack.
I need whatever support you can lend, and so does my wonderful daughter. Thanks for being my friends on DU.

elleng
(138,164 posts)Good they had happy years together.
PADemD
(4,482 posts)murielm99
(31,674 posts)I expect to be gone for awhile.
japple
(10,437 posts)daughter. Asking the Universe to comfort and surround you both with light.
NJCher
(38,845 posts)Sometimes I just can't fathom it.
My nephew, too, died at a similar age of a heart attack. It was so hard to get used to the idea that such a young person was gone.
I will send positive thoughts to you and your daughter.
Cher
onecent
(6,096 posts)It is so difficult to lose them when they are just beginning their lives. i lost my 51 year old nephew to a snowmobile accident year ago january in No. Indiana. I will never get over it, his first grandaughter (first grandchild) was born after his death and before the funeral.
My thoughts go out to your daughter and all your family.
Delphinus
(12,181 posts){{hugs}} and love to both you and your daughter.
I am sorry that he is gone too soon.
Love ...
moonbeam23
(369 posts)That is so so sad...and it's hard for you to see your daughter so devastated and not be able to fix it...
Love and light to all of you...
Digit
(6,163 posts)murielm99
(31,674 posts)and a car. She doesn't need his car. I think we will be taking over the payments. She loves the dog, but can't care for it.
She has been living in an apartment, away from him, because of her job. She was home at their house this week, when he died. Thank God. She was at a training session closer to their home.
There is a lot to do. We will all help as much as we can.
japple
(10,437 posts)suddenly from a heart attack 10 yrs. ago, I could not have made it without my friends and loved ones (including angels) holding me aloft. When I look back on that time, it is such a blur.
Hold each other close and let your daughter know that it is okay to lean on family and friends. I am sure she is grateful for the support.
Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and sending positive energies.
ETA: Bless you for taking in the dog. I work in animal rescue and it is so very sad how many pets end up in the animal control shelter. Most are traumatized by the loss of their human companions and are grieving, then they get sent to a loud, smelly, prison cell and become broken animals. It is very sad. If you don't already have dogs, you might not realize that they grieve for their missing loved ones, and s/he might whine or bark or act depressed.
Please PM me if you just want to talk about any of this. When my mother, father, husband died, I found that a lot of folks wanted to avoid talking about death and dying, and that is what I needed to talk about at the time. Whenever anyone I know has lost a loved one, I now make it a point to reach out and let them know that I will listen and will be there to hear what they want to share.
murielm99
(31,674 posts)I will tell you this much:
There have been many times I have gone to a visitation or sent a card, and avoided going to a funeral. Never again! I was so grateful to see the family and friends who travelled to Tom's funeral. They did not have to do this.
There will be a memorial service for him in Illinois this summer. I expect to see people from all over the world. He had friends everywhere.
Please go to memorials and funerals, people. Please send cards, if that is all you can do. Even though I have been through other losses, the outpouring of love really has struck a chord for me this time around.
I posted his obituary in the bereavement group, if anyone wants to see it.