Cancer Support
Related: About this forumMy scan was good.
The oncologist is now scheduling scans every six months instead of every three months.
This is about the only good thing in my life right now, other than a supportive husband. (That means a lot). Social Security is still threatening my benefits. We are getting a guardian ad litem for my mother, who has dementia. I have her health care and durable powers of attorney. However, she beat up on me and ripped my clothes the last time I was there. That is enough...someone else can put up with the crazy. And if you think this is all due to dementia, think again. She has spent a lifetime beating me and telling me she hates me. I don't know why I try to help her.
Anyway, I am doing well in the cancer department. I am thankful for that, and for the support I get here.
I am going to shut up now, rather than overshare any more.

sinkingfeeling
(54,865 posts)brer cat
(26,886 posts)You need some stress reduction in your life, and those are two big ones.
MLAA
(19,068 posts)Hurray on the good scan and for stepping away from a lifetime of abuse from your mother. .
Staph
(6,389 posts)Isn't it lovely to only have to go through that process twice a year, instead of quarterly?
I'm on the every six months schedule. Every little step forward is a victory!
LoisB
(9,930 posts)back of your mind (at least for now).
walkingman
(9,026 posts)I am on a 6 month schedule with my oncologist also and now after 5 years he tells me next visit I will graduate......don't have to come back unless have a symptom in the future!!
I'm keeping my port so will be going for flushes but it doesn't bother me and so will keep for a few years more. I only get flushed now every three months.
👍👍👍
sheshe2
(91,047 posts)What a relief for you.
I am sorry about the mom issue, just hang in there the best you can. The important thing is you and your well being.
niyad
(123,076 posts)Fla Dem
(26,442 posts)Step away from your mother as much as you can.
At this point in your life put yourself and your husband first. Focus on living your best life.
irisblue
(34,865 posts)William769
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ailsagirl
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DarthDem
(5,384 posts)All my best wishes to you.
PortTack
(35,467 posts)calimary
(85,728 posts)Thanks for letting us know, murielm99! And please keep us posted on how you’re doing.
mercuryblues
(15,520 posts)After everything is settled with your mom, take yourself and hubby on a nice quiet vacation.
Reset yourself. Knowing you won't have
to deal with the hate and abuse anymore,
Will free you up emotionally. Embrace it.
alfredo
(60,162 posts)It’s good that you are walking away from abusive people. You have greater priorities than being a punching bag for others.
I severed ties with my parents a long time ago. One of my best moves. Their passing brought relief.
Dark n Stormy Knight
(10,290 posts)distinguish that! Sympathy & compassion to you for having had a toxic mother.
Congrats on the improved health. 💜