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douglas9

(5,714 posts)
Wed Feb 18, 2026, 06:57 AM 18 hrs ago

Tony Gonzales had affair with aide who set herself on fire, ex-staffer says

U.S. Rep. Tony Gonzales engaged in a romantic relationship with an aide who died last year by setting herself on fire outside her Uvalde home, according to a text message and people close to the aide and her family.

A former staffer in Gonzales' district office who worked closely with the aide, Regina Ann "Regi" Santos-Aviles, said she told him they had an affair in 2024, and that she spiraled into a depression after her husband discovered the relationship and Gonzales abruptly cut her off. He also shared with the San Antonio Express-News a screenshot of a text message from Santos-Aviles in which she acknowledged having an “affair with our boss.”

The staffer, who asked not to be named, citing a fear of retaliation, faulted Gonzales' office for failing to intervene, saying he warned the congressman's district director months before Santos-Aviles' death that he was concerned about her well-being. He described her as his “best friend” and said their families knew each other.

Gonzales, a Republican representing Texas' 23rd Congressional District, is currently seeking reelection in a contested primary. He and his staff did not respond to a list of detailed questions submitted by the Express-News.

A lawyer for Santos-Aviles' husband said her romantic relationship with the congressman was an open secret, and that he does not believe it played a role in her death. Authorities have said there was no evidence of foul play in Santos-Aviles’ death. Both she and Gonzales were married to other people at the time of the alleged affair.


https://www.expressnews.com/news/article/tony-gonzales-affair-regina-santos-aviles-21357720.php




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Tony Gonzales had affair with aide who set herself on fire, ex-staffer says (Original Post) douglas9 18 hrs ago OP
it is a sodid affair, but we are all human. rampartd 18 hrs ago #1
Regins Clouds Passing 14 hrs ago #2
GOP aide who died by lighting herself on fire alleged affair with House Republican: report LetMyPeopleVote 10 hrs ago #3

rampartd

(4,383 posts)
1. it is a sodid affair, but we are all human.
Wed Feb 18, 2026, 07:22 AM
18 hrs ago

take a long hot shower and get over it.

for gonzalez. keep it in your pants. trump uses these "wonderful secrets" to screw your constituents.

self immolation is a terrible mess to leave for others to clean up, and should be reserved for serious political statements.


looked this up, mostly to remember names thich quang duc and mohamed bouazizi. i had forgotten norman morrison at the pentagon and the handful of soviet era dissidents.

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/politics/sen-kelly-says-death-threats-have-increased-since-trump-called-for-his-execution/ar-AA1RvQbD

surprising fact : 50% survival rate (modern medicine = maybe rfk has some ideas to improve the fatality rate?)

LetMyPeopleVote

(177,433 posts)
3. GOP aide who died by lighting herself on fire alleged affair with House Republican: report
Wed Feb 18, 2026, 03:14 PM
10 hrs ago

This asshole needs to be voted out of office

GOP aide who died by lighting herself on fire alleged affair with House Republican: report

Raw Story (@rawstory.com) 2026-02-18T01:55:16.457Z

https://www.rawstory.com/tony-gonzales-2675278691

A Republican House staffer who died after setting herself on fire last year claimed in text messages to have had an affair with Rep. Tony Gonzales (R-TX).

According to The San Antonio Express-News, "A former staffer in Gonzales' district office who worked closely with the aide, Regina Ann 'Regi' Santos-Aviles, said she told him they had an affair in 2024, and that she spiraled into a depression after her husband discovered the relationship and Gonzales abruptly cut her off. He also shared with the San Antonio Express-News a screenshot of a text message from Santos-Aviles in which she acknowledged having an 'affair with our boss.'"

Gonzales is a married father of six.

"A lawyer for Santos-Aviles' husband said her romantic relationship with the congressman was an open secret, and that he does not believe it played a role in her death," said the report. However, "The staffer, who asked not to be named, citing a fear of retaliation, faulted Gonzales' office for failing to intervene, saying he warned the congressman's district director months before Santos-Aviles' death that he was concerned about her well-being. He described her as his 'best friend' and said their families knew each other."

Gonzales, who represents a sprawling district that covers most of the U.S.-Mexico border in Texas as well as the southwestern suburbs of San Antonio, is currently locked in a tough primary race with gun rights activist Brandon Herrera, who also fielded a close challenge for this seat in 2024.
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