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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsLast night I had a curious dream
I dream almost every night but rarely remember what they were about. A little background first: I had an evil stepfather, he was a drunk and a bully and an all-round asshole. I hated him, but I Ioved his family. I called his parents Grandma and Grandpa; I called his brothers Uncle A, Uncle B and Uncle C; I called his sister Aunt D; and I called their children my cousins. I thought they loved me too, but they really didn't (when my mother finally left the step-father in 1984, I never heard from them again. Out with the old and in with the new, I guess. It broke my heart.)
Anyway, in 1982, Uncle B, who was newly married less than a year, tragically died in a car accident. He was only 37. He was my favorite and the nicest person I'd ever met. We were all devastated.
I dreamt about him three times after he died. In the first two dreams, we were sitting in easy chairs across from each other, talking, until I realized and said "wait a minute, you're dead" and he disappeared. The third time, I was going through a rough patch and was stressing out about everything and he said "don't worry, everything's going to be all right" and it was. I never dreamt about him again until last night.
I dont remember most of it. I was in someone's house with a bunch of people I didn't know and he was there and I said to him "where have you been?" but he wouldn't say. I wonder why I would dream about him after all these years (44!). Maybe it means something and maybe it doesn't. I wish I knew.
murielm99
(33,176 posts)they have often had a lingering effect on me emotionally, but they have faded after a day or so. Supposedly, dreams are the way our minds clean house and restore order, roughly speaking. I do believe that I have had dreams that warned me and encourage me.
Your post is interesting. I wish I knew how to support you.
biophile
(1,710 posts)It could be as simple as a smell or image that you connect with him somehow.
The other thing I would say is that his last message to you before was that everything would be fine. I hope he returned to reassure you again!
Not a dream expert, but those are my thoughts!
EverHopeful
(732 posts)separation from even the ones you love might be made to feel mandatory.
As my cousin described reconnecting with some of the cousins who had been estranged after a split, lovely people, horrible parents.
I know the kids who had no choice but to stay with the drunk a**holes didn't feel safe reaching out until grown and out on their own.
Hope your dream turns out to be a harbinger of something good that you've had in the back of your mind but couldn't recognize until you were dreaming.