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debm55

(61,531 posts)
Wed May 13, 2026, 10:36 PM 7 hrs ago

I am sad and nervous. I went to the Breast Cancer Center this afternoon for my six month check up for a lump in my right

breast. It is now a mass. Tech took results to the doctor. She came in and said that not only do I have the mass but now more are appearing. I scheduled a biopsy for June 5. I talked to my husband Rich and DU friend John. They both helped me. Rich is finishing his treatment for Malignant Prostate cancer. and came in the room when the Doctor came in. John and I talked and he really helped me.You guys are my family and I can't talked to my mother. She needs a ride for my sister to get her 6 month check up for her "cancer" She keeps telling me that my sister has cancer in her uterus , which she never had as it was a polyp. She was given a hysterectomy. But she has a stage 4 tumor in it. I so wish I could tell her that I am scared. I have told the stories of my youth to repeat again. You are my family. I hope now that I got that free. I can sleep better tonight. Love you all, Deb.❤️ I just needed someone to talk to.

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I am sad and nervous. I went to the Breast Cancer Center this afternoon for my six month check up for a lump in my right (Original Post) debm55 7 hrs ago OP
I won't let you fall into the fears. I have good feelings coming your way and nothing that hlthe2b 7 hrs ago #1
Thank you hlthe2b. For being here. Love, deb. debm55 7 hrs ago #3
Hey, sweetie, the thing that I love most about DU is what one wise poster once said: calimary 7 hrs ago #2
thank you my dear calimary. Love, deb debm55 7 hrs ago #4
Please believe me when I say don't fret..stay positive and that's good medicine, too. I have an idea of Deuxcents 7 hrs ago #5
Deb please try to take a breath. Diamond_Dog 7 hrs ago #6
I'm gonna jump in here buzzycrumbhunger 7 hrs ago #7
Wishing you a positive outcome on your biopsy. Marie Marie 7 hrs ago #8
Holding you and Rich in love and light. Vibes for best possible outcome. niyad 6 hrs ago #9
My mother had bilateral breast cancer lumps. She had lumpectomy, radiation, and then took tamoxifen. She did not die surfered 6 hrs ago #10
I'm sending you healing vibes and positive thoughts! Nt spooky3 6 hrs ago #11
I am sending you hugs and all the best energy to surround you! MLAA 6 hrs ago #12
... WestMichRad 6 hrs ago #13
Dear dear dearest Deb, You bring so much empathy, fun, joy and memory KitFox 6 hrs ago #14
Dear Deb.....May the next days land gently for you Ninga 6 hrs ago #15
Oh sweet Deb. I'm sending you hugs and healing vibes sueh 6 hrs ago #16
Of course you are sad and nervous. It's a normal reaction, and you did the right thing by talking about it. hamsterjill 6 hrs ago #17
Dear deb....we got you irisblue 6 hrs ago #18
You have our affection and support dear debm55. alwaysinasnit 6 hrs ago #19
My dog Diggory and I are sending you calm and peace..... ColoringFool 6 hrs ago #20
Hey, ColoringFool! calimary 5 hrs ago #23
Oh debm55 I'm so sorry Figarosmom 5 hrs ago #21
We're all going to be here with you Debbie, JMCKUSICK 5 hrs ago #22
Oh Deb. summer_in_TX 5 hrs ago #24
good wishes for a positive outcome dear debm55 msongs 5 hrs ago #25
Sending you love, hugs and healing thoughts deb. sheshe2 5 hrs ago #26
Healing vibes to you stage left 5 hrs ago #27
I'm holding you in my heart dear person. Hope22 5 hrs ago #28
One day at a time, dear Deb.. Permanut 4 hrs ago #29
Waiting Is The Worst DET 4 hrs ago #30
I have sent my plea to The Universe for your good health. You will not be alone LoisB 3 hrs ago #31
Dear sweet, wonderful Deb MIButterfly 3 hrs ago #32
I don't even know where to begin. murielm99 1 hr ago #33
I hope for negative results and a positive outcome. Buddyzbuddy 45 min ago #34

hlthe2b

(114,571 posts)
1. I won't let you fall into the fears. I have good feelings coming your way and nothing that
Wed May 13, 2026, 10:45 PM
7 hrs ago

you have written means you can't get through this with ultimately good results. Breath deeply and don't let yourself dwell on the fears of the unknown. Yes, of course they are there, but move them way to the back of your mind and take everything as the most positive they can be. Every step is one toward resolution. Day by day. Positive thoughts will steer your mind and yes, be good for your body too!

Now go get some sleep knowing we are all going to be thinking of you with best healing thoughts!

calimary

(90,695 posts)
2. Hey, sweetie, the thing that I love most about DU is what one wise poster once said:
Wed May 13, 2026, 10:48 PM
7 hrs ago

“Someone’s always here.”

I believe it was our longtime-beloved Skittles who first made that observation. And it’s TRUE! ANY hour of day OR night. SOMEBODY’S gonna be here to help you get through even the worst of times, thereby making sure you don’t feel completely alone or abandoned. Inevitably.

Just one more reason why I love this place. Always here when and if you need it (and even when you don’t!).

Deuxcents

(27,620 posts)
5. Please believe me when I say don't fret..stay positive and that's good medicine, too. I have an idea of
Wed May 13, 2026, 10:59 PM
7 hrs ago

How old you are so this could be any one of a few things but we always think the worst. My issue was fibroids and they can be very similar to the touch but only tests can be sure and the earlier the better. Don’t worry about any one else’s problems, appointments or issues..this is about YOU and only YOU. Let us know your journey to good health and keep positive and deep breaths. 🌺

Diamond_Dog

(40,993 posts)
6. Deb please try to take a breath.
Wed May 13, 2026, 11:00 PM
7 hrs ago

I have been in your shoes and I can just imagine how you’re feeling.

My oncologist always tells me that medical science improves so fast even in the last 5 years there are new treatments, drugs, that weren’t around before. And, if you have to have surgery, you have to have it. It’s not the end of the world. I have been through it! And that was 19 years ago and I’m still here! You will be okay. I will send you good thoughts and strength to deal. Here’s a hug….

buzzycrumbhunger

(2,139 posts)
7. I'm gonna jump in here
Wed May 13, 2026, 11:19 PM
7 hrs ago

You’ve been monitored to keep an eye out for this. This is nothing like winding up in the hospital because something horrible happened and they discovered something that’s been growing for years and is too major to deal with. They’ll obviously want to get it out, they’ll probably put you on tamoxifen or something, and you’ll cope.

You’re not alone, obviously—look at the people here rushing to comfort you! Just stay positive and expect the best. I’ve worked in healthcare for a couple decades and have seen far more successes than failures.

Getting in line for the hugs. You’ve got this!

Marie Marie

(11,490 posts)
8. Wishing you a positive outcome on your biopsy.
Wed May 13, 2026, 11:20 PM
7 hrs ago

Until and after, you know how we are all here for you to talk, scream or cry to. We never close and we care.

niyad

(133,910 posts)
9. Holding you and Rich in love and light. Vibes for best possible outcome.
Wed May 13, 2026, 11:21 PM
6 hrs ago

Your DU family is here for you, so lean as hard as you need.

surfered

(14,180 posts)
10. My mother had bilateral breast cancer lumps. She had lumpectomy, radiation, and then took tamoxifen. She did not die
Wed May 13, 2026, 11:25 PM
6 hrs ago

from cancer.

Listen to your doctors. Stay strong.

🙏

MLAA

(19,794 posts)
12. I am sending you hugs and all the best energy to surround you!
Wed May 13, 2026, 11:44 PM
6 hrs ago

🩷💕🩷💕🩷

KitFox

(594 posts)
14. Dear dear dearest Deb, You bring so much empathy, fun, joy and memory
Wed May 13, 2026, 11:53 PM
6 hrs ago

lane traveling to all of us, that there is no way in the world that someone with your heart and soul won’t beat the ever lovin’ hell out of this! We love you and are sending truckloads of healing and caring energy to you, dear heart. Pop on and reach out any hour of the day or night and we will hear you. Please keep us posted. We care so so much🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷

Ninga

(9,030 posts)
15. Dear Deb.....May the next days land gently for you
Wed May 13, 2026, 11:55 PM
6 hrs ago

and that your prognosis is hopeful. Holding good thoughts and prayers for you and your medical team. Sending a bushel full of hugs.

sueh

(1,971 posts)
16. Oh sweet Deb. I'm sending you hugs and healing vibes
Wed May 13, 2026, 11:57 PM
6 hrs ago

as you go through this. Scary, I know from experience.Everybody here has your back. We love you, Deb.

hamsterjill

(17,732 posts)
17. Of course you are sad and nervous. It's a normal reaction, and you did the right thing by talking about it.
Wed May 13, 2026, 11:59 PM
6 hrs ago

Seems a lot is going on with you and your husband. I can imagine that you are overwhelmed. Talking about it can most times put things into a better perspective.

It would be unnatural NOT to be frightened by this. But it was mentioned up thread that staying positive is actually good medicine. I'm a firm believer in that. Easier said than done, right? Well, yes. But it's something that we all need to work on and learn to do better. So, I hope that you will take this time between now and your biopsy to surround yourself with love and care and stories of women with positive outcomes. I hope you have confidence in your doctors and know that they are there to help you and create the best outcome for you.

I will be praying for you, as is my personal practice. As has been said here already several times, you come here and talk any time you feel the need. Come here and feel some DU love.

Deb, I wish you calm and peace and a good night's sleep, and I want a long-term positive outcome for you! Take care of yourself and keep us updated.

ColoringFool

(1,036 posts)
20. My dog Diggory and I are sending you calm and peace.....
Thu May 14, 2026, 12:14 AM
6 hrs ago

Diggory isn't a real dog, but he gives me a sense of that calm and peace when I am ill and fearful, as I live alone.

🙏

calimary

(90,695 posts)
23. Hey, ColoringFool!
Thu May 14, 2026, 12:49 AM
5 hrs ago

Your imagination can REALLY help, in the “coping department”. I’ve found the wisdom and kindness and the company you can enjoy here are SUPER helpful when you need moral support - for ANY reason.

Btw, glad you’re here, too!

Figarosmom

(13,212 posts)
21. Oh debm55 I'm so sorry
Thu May 14, 2026, 12:34 AM
5 hrs ago

Don't let it affect you spirit. Stay positive. Enjoy each moment you can. And for goodness sakes don't jump right to the worst possible outcome in your mind before you even know what you are dealing with.

Hope22

(4,858 posts)
28. I'm holding you in my heart dear person.
Thu May 14, 2026, 01:20 AM
5 hrs ago

Love and healing thoughts go out to you. 💗💐💗🙏🏼🥰

Permanut

(8,557 posts)
29. One day at a time, dear Deb..
Thu May 14, 2026, 01:47 AM
4 hrs ago

We happen to know that you can handle any challenge that is put in front of you.

And just for the record, my wife is a 15 year survivor of breast cancer, free and clear. That's just one survivor story, but there are a lot stories like hers.

DET

(2,594 posts)
30. Waiting Is The Worst
Thu May 14, 2026, 02:06 AM
4 hrs ago

Deb, I know that it’s going to be hard waiting for the biopsy and your mind will go to some really scary places. I have to think that your doctor would have expedited the biopsy if they were seriously concerned. I was told in my twenties that I had a breast mole that had all the signs of cancer and was given a biopsy that same day. Turned out to be nothing.

You’re still coping with your husband’s advanced PC, but by now you know that even stage 4 PC is manageable if not curable. I used to completely freak out waiting for the results of my husband’s every three months tests, especially if the results were late. After six years, I’ve learned to calm down and anticipate good results.

It’s completely normal to be nervous at this point, but it helps to find enjoyable distractions that take your mind off of things until you have some definitive answers. Maybe indulge in some things or activities that you normally wouldn’t. I wish you the best and please keep us informed.

LoisB

(13,396 posts)
31. I have sent my plea to The Universe for your good health. You will not be alone
Thu May 14, 2026, 02:51 AM
3 hrs ago

through this trial. We are all here for you.

MIButterfly

(3,128 posts)
32. Dear sweet, wonderful Deb
Thu May 14, 2026, 02:59 AM
3 hrs ago

I am holding you in my heart and in my thoughts. Please know that your DU family, myself included, is here for you any time, day or night. Lean on us as much as you want. We've got your back, always! You bring so much joy with your posts. I look forward to your "polls" (or should I say questions? Sorry, I don't know what to call them; it's late) and smile every time I see a new one!

I hope your biopsy turns out to be nothing serious. If it is something, we'll all be behind you, come what may. You are loved and cherished here. Please don't ever forget it. You will never be alone as long as you have us!

Much love,
MIButterfly



murielm99

(33,073 posts)
33. I don't even know where to begin.
Thu May 14, 2026, 04:31 AM
1 hr ago

Cancer sucks. No matter what form it takes, it sucks.

I am glad you came here to get the support of your DU family. Like the others, I will be here for you.

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