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Aristus

(71,488 posts)
Sun Dec 14, 2025, 08:08 PM Yesterday

I can't stop crying. And this song is the reason why:



This song plays over the credits of the new Benoit Blanc Mystery, "Wake Up, Dead Man." It sounds like old-time gospel. But if you listen to the lyrics, it's not. It rejects a religious outlook. It's despairing and bleak. There's no savior coming. But it does seem to offer some hope. Come on up to the house. Maybe it's a house we build for ourselves and each other. A place to find hope in community, in brotherhood, safety in numbers.

I don't know. I've never hurt this bad, or feared this much because of all that's going on.

Then there's this version. After Tom Waits' bellowing, barrelhouse roar, Willie Nelson's gentle, nasal cadences offer hope, and a chance at serenity, no matter how bad things get.



If anybody asks, no, I haven't been drinking. I'm just so tired and sad. And now elleng is gone...
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2naSalit

(99,525 posts)
1. It's a tough time...
Sun Dec 14, 2025, 08:20 PM
Yesterday

For so many.



Just remember that those who pass from the physical world are still with us in our memories, they are there until we join them on the other side... if you're incline to observe such things.

blm

(114,405 posts)
2. I've been thinking about elleng all day
Sun Dec 14, 2025, 08:36 PM
23 hrs ago

I don’t know if I can handle this song tonight.
I’ll try tomorrow.

appmanga

(1,357 posts)
3. It's a great song...
Sun Dec 14, 2025, 08:50 PM
23 hrs ago

...and has some fine lyrics. "Come down from the cross, we can use the wood" is a great line.

erronis

(22,384 posts)
4. Thank you, Aristus. A beautiful song - sad and hopeful - just like life.
Sun Dec 14, 2025, 09:07 PM
23 hrs ago

I may wake up in despair and then move into a joy to be alive.

I'd be happy to tip one with you any day.

Hope22

(4,405 posts)
5. When things feel like they can't get heavier.....
Sun Dec 14, 2025, 09:26 PM
23 hrs ago

Take care. Sending love to you. 💗

LuckyCharms

(21,313 posts)
7. I've never heard this before.
Sun Dec 14, 2025, 09:40 PM
22 hrs ago

I looked up the lyrics and followed along.

Got teary eyed.

Hell of an emotional song.

Thank you for posting this, Aristus.

Martin68

(26,884 posts)
8. I disagree. It's not bleak. The house is not a church, it is the house of a friend where all friends are welcome.
Sun Dec 14, 2025, 09:46 PM
22 hrs ago

I found it beautiful.

calimary

(88,758 posts)
9. Hey Aristus, with Christmas coming soon,
Sun Dec 14, 2025, 10:26 PM
22 hrs ago

seems to me NOW is the time to appreciate all the good and steel oneself against the bad that, unfortunately, is probably inevitable for the next few years.

That’s probably why I hang out here so much. The people here buoy me up and remind me that I’m FAR from alone in objecting to (and fighting against) trump. USE that! Don’t forget it. You have more and more people joining our resistance movement by the day, as more people start waking up.

Just come here and weigh in, and unload, whenever you feel the need to. I believe it was our Skittles who once said “someone’s always here.” And I have used that little three-word reminder to help myself stay sane.

THISE are the “three little words” that help me keep going - and yes, keep fighting AND resisting.

slightlv

(7,283 posts)
10. I've been thinking of elleng all day, too...
Sun Dec 14, 2025, 10:30 PM
22 hrs ago

and that's led me into my own thoughts of life and mortality, which are sneaking up rapidly. Hubby is about over the edge with his dementia and driving me insane. So much he should NOT be doing right now, and refusing to take advice about any of it. I worry if this is coming down the pike for my brain, too. It's just been an unsettling day, all around, I think.

Rizen

(1,013 posts)
12. I feel that way about Wendle Gee by REM
Sun Dec 14, 2025, 11:03 PM
21 hrs ago

Because it reminds me of when my mom died of cancer.

AZJonnie

(2,601 posts)
16. That one can give me a cry even without any specific association like you have
Mon Dec 15, 2025, 01:20 AM
19 hrs ago

It's a way-underappreciated gem in the IRS-era catalog.

Wendle Gee sounds like "loss" even if you don't pay attention to the words which of course seem to be about a child saying goodbye to a beloved tree (at least, I *think* lol) so once you know that takes on an even more touching vibe.

I have lots of those kinds of songs. For me the one closest to yours is the ending of Captain Fantastic: We All Fall In Love Sometimes/Curtains which reminds me of my grandad. He was a rail thin dude (like a scarecrow) and my grandma was so beautiful (the freshest flower this garden ever grew) and they were such a wonderful people. Anyways, they're both there in Curtains



KY_EnviroGuy

(14,758 posts)
13. Song Lyrics
Sun Dec 14, 2025, 11:48 PM
20 hrs ago
Come on Up to the House

[Verse 1]
Well, the moon is broken and the sky is cracked
Come on up to the house
The only things that you can see is all that you lack
Come on up to the house

All your cryin' don't do no good
Come on up to the house
Come down off the cross, we can use the wood
You gotta come on up to the house

[Chorus]
Come on up to the house
Come on up to the house
The world is not my home
I'm just a-passin' through
You gotta come on up to the house

[Verse 2]
There's no light in the tunnel, no irons in the fire
Come on up to the house
And you're singing lead soprano in a junkman's choir
You gotta come on up to the house

Does life seem nasty, brutish and short?
Come on up to the house
The seas are stormy and you can't find no port
Got to come on up to the house, yeah

[Chorus]
You gotta come on up to the house
Come on up to the house
The world is not my home
I'm just a-passin' through
You gotta come on up to the house, yeah

[Chorus]
You gotta come on up to the house
Come on up to the house
The world is not my home
I'm just a-passin' through
You gotta come on up to the house

[Verse 3]
There's nothin in the world that you can do
You gotta come on up to the house
And you been whipped by the forces that are inside you
Gotta come on up to the house

Well, you're high on top of your mountain of woe
Gotta come on up to the house
Well, you know you should surrender, but you can't let go
You gotta come on up to the house, yeah

[Chorus]
Gotta come on up to the house
Gotta come on up to the house
The world is not my home
I'm just a-passin' through
You gotta come on up to the house
Gotta come on up to the house
You gotta come on up to the house, oh yeah

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Song Bio

Featured on the TV show “Orange is the New Black”, season two, episode “40 OZ of Furlough”.

The song is about accepting your shortcomings and the grimness of the world. Instead of isolating themself because of this, one should accept it and ‘Come on Up to the House’ to the rest of the people.

From: https://genius.com/Tom-waits-come-on-up-to-the-house-lyrics

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Thanks for posting and sharing, Aristus. You helped with my struggles today!.......

aggiesal

(10,503 posts)
14. 2 songs that make sob like a baby ...
Mon Dec 15, 2025, 12:10 AM
20 hrs ago
Let There Be Peace On Earth


The Theme from Brian's Song


This is why Brian's Song makes me cry


Some background.
I grew up 20 miles south of downtown Chicago, in Indiana. All Chicago sports teams are what we a watched. I grew up watching Gale Sayers and Walter Payton. Brian's Song is about the interracial friendship, in the 1960's, that bloomed between Gale Sayers and Brian Piccolo. I was 10 years old when the movie was released.

My senior year in college, at the last football home game of the season, The Pride Band of New Mexico State, for their final song played The Theme of Brian's Song. Here's this 22 year old kid in the stands crying like a baby and my friend's were wondering why I was crying. All I could say is "Watch the movie Brian's Song"

The Chicago Bears honored him by creating The Brian Piccolo Award, which is given to players who best exemplify courage, loyalty, teamwork, dedication, and a sense of humor.

There are different versions of the award:
The Chicago Bears present it annually to a rookie and a veteran on the team.
Because Brian Piccolo played for Wake Forest University of the Atlantic Coast Conference (ACC), ACC gives it to its "most courageous" football player, and several UNICO chapters give it to courageous athletes of Italian-American heritage.

Dear_Prudence

(1,005 posts)
15. Memories
Mon Dec 15, 2025, 12:30 AM
20 hrs ago

I attended University of Colorado in 1973. The dorm had a tv room with one big television. I watched the movie Brian's Song with a bunch of other kids from the dorm. I remember that it seemed odd to be in a room with all of the young men crying.

lostnfound

(17,362 posts)
17. Amid science and beauty, "in my Father's house, there are many mansions" and "all the hairs of your head are counted"
Mon Dec 15, 2025, 02:05 PM
6 hrs ago

“Do not be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows”

All my life I keep showing up to a banquet. The banquet is made of nature, science, learning, love.
I did not make the banquet, yet it keeps amazing me with its deliciousness:

Delicious fruits from the labor of others. I live in a house i didn’t build, eat food I didn’t grow, read books I didn’t write.

Delicious displays of natural beauty: The bird that caws as it glides overhead in invisible currents. The light entity that danced in the trees one evening in puzzling, glistening, evolving ovals while we slowly figured out that it was coming from scraps of light reflecting on the water onto the old trunk of a tree (a tree we had named Hobbes, whose backside still bore the scars of a lightning strike). Water — what a rich substance it is, simple but elegant, powerful or gentle, scarce or pervasive, solid, liquid to swim in or drink, mists, fog that feeds the redwoods, clouds, snowflakes, glaciers, and divider of light into rainbows.

Delicious morsels of physical reality turned into knowledge, through the painstaking research of brighter minds — Like: the seasonal migration of birds may rest on light-activated “crypto-chrome” proteins to produce radical pairs of electrons, entangled pairs that are much longer lasting and are [link: Magnetoreception |hyper-sensitive] to the minute electromagnetic fields of planet earth.That last fact was assembled into the bank of human knowledge by quantum physicists like Klaus Schulten in the 1970s, ornithologists like Scott Wiedensaul, and Henrik Mouritsen who found the cryptochrome molecules. And the good folks at Radiolab, who brought the story to my 62-year-old ears, as beautiful of a story to my ears as…

Specific voices still in my memory have poured into my ears like honey, like love, like the voices of childhood, like the voice of the mourning dove as it cooed and purred outside my modest childhood home, which always recalls to me the spirit and love of my mother, gone now for 37 years.

Leonard Cohen sung ‘Ring the bells that still can ring, forget your perfect offering, there is a crack, a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in’. Leonard Cohen, and whatever spirit flowed through Bruce Springsteen to capture so eloquently the blending of tragedy and holy sacrifice of the firefighters in the lyrics of The Rising:
Sky of blackness and sorrow (A dream of life)
Sky of love, sky of tears (A dream of life)
Sky of glory and sadness (A dream of life)
Sky of mercy, sky of fear (A dream of life)
Sky of memory and shadow (A dream of life)
Your burning wind fills my arms tonight
Sky of longing and emptiness (A dream of life)
Sky of fullness, sky of blessed life (A dream of life)
Come on up for the rising
Come on up, lay your hands in mine

And the soul that breathes through Sweet Honey in the Rock (“I don’t know how my mother walked her troubles down.. I don’t know how the angels woke me up this morning soon / I don’t know how the blood still runs thru my veins / I don’t know how I rate to run another day / Standing in a rainstorm I believe. My God calls to me in the morning dew / The power of the universe knows my name / Gave me a song to sing and sent me on my way / I raise my voice for justice I believe)

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I deserve none of these great blessings, have earned no such extravagance as a world full of birds, and water, and music, and math, and quite a large number of beautiful souls. Not to mention babies (innocence), four year olds (angels incarnate), very old people (living portraits nearing completion) and puppies (joy). Yet here we are. Life as we know it is full of what seems impossible. Look up at the sky as the great migrations occur; you may witness a migratory miracle. Like the 8,300 mile nonstop flight of a Bar-Tailed Godwit, which flapped its way for 11 days over the Pacific Ocean from Kikigak Island in Alaska to Ansons Bay Tasmania near New Zealand, just 4 months after it hatched. It seems impossible, and oddly, its migration depends on quantum mechanics to navigate.

Where does the great migration of human souls go? We who believe in facts and science avoid taking things on faith. But science can’t explain where time goes, either. Why we move forward in time, but not backward. What is outside of the box we live inside of? Do the godwits disappear for good, like it must seem in Alaska each December? Or do they reappear — the same birds — after a long journey across the ocean? At 1 month or 2 months, they may struggle to toddle around, but at 4 months, they fly 8,300 miles.

Here’s a message in a bottle: “Dear fellow human ape. When you are watching the birds leave, pick up a phone and FaceTime to converse with someone in India, or Japan, or Tasmania. Easy, right? You could wait 11 days, before you call Tasmania, and ask if they’ve seen your godwits yet. After you walk around in space this way, through the magic of internet, walk around in time. Pick up a different phone, and talk to your great-great-great-grandfather, and tell him his progeny survived far into the future — whatever the future is, since now it is just another dimension. You can’t walk around in time? Only forward, not backward? Humans won’t invent that, but we didn’t invent magnetoreception in birds, either. It just developed on its own.

To make the universe understandable to humans, it had to be fractured into billions of people, run rampant in a long experiment. A condition both temporary and permanent. You can’t understand this now, because you are trapped in time, but one day that changes. Your little 3D printers put down one thin layer at a time, do they? The intricate machinery of quantum physicists at a blackboard and ornithologists standing in watery fields didn't happen overnight, to build up knowledge acquired in bites understandable to a 3 pound human brain. Creation and invention poured out over the millennia. All this beauty, knowledge, learning and love.

I don’t know what it all means. It is undetermined, maybe indeterminable. It ain’t all for nothing, I think. After 60+ years, in spite of all the bad in the world, I am chronically aware that the depth and intricacy of beautiful life are endless. In darkest hours, in brightest hours, there is meaning. Mumford & Sons sang ‘“Are you afraid / However could you not be / In this rosy light/ This is strange / I feel a hand come through the mirror / Pointing at the light / Point at the light we never see / As you put your feathered arms over me / We'll sit and talk the stars down from the sky / And I'll not forget the chaos in your eyes love / And as you leave / You must know you are beloved”

Human emotions are too big for the human heart to hold. Human knowledge is too big for one human mind, but collectively we have something greater than we have alone. Are we fractured light, waiting to be made whole again? It seems implausible, but the miraculous earth carries less plausible realities than that.

In my father’s house, there are many mansions — billions, maybe. Wander around, you have all the time you need now, outside of time. It will seem familiar, with the people and places and ideas you loved, still nearby. When a circle translates along a line to be a cylinder, or around a ring to a torus, it doesn’t stop being a circle exactly. You never were 3 dimensional anyway. You were already an infinite series of humans, from beginning to end, a 3-D person translated across the 4th dimension of time. At the end, we think ‘now you are complete’. Life may surprise you one more time. You were always connected, like islands under the water.

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