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Related: Culture Forums, Support ForumsMy daughter has lost nearly everything in the Eaton fire, thanks in no small part to her idiot husband.
Early yesterday a friend of hers showed up with a U-Haul to help her evacuate. Her husband refused to remove any of their belongings from their house. He insisted on dicking around with a generator and pump to use the pool water to keep the house wet. Around midnight their backyard ignited and they just made it to one of their cars before the house caught fire.
She lost thirty years of her award winning photos and fashion designs, heirlooms from her grandparents, photo albums, gifts from her childhood, I could go on and on.
Also lost were custom motorcycles designed and built by her husband worth $250,000.
The last time we spoke was early this morning. She said it took six hours to get out of the fire zone.
While talking the line went dead and we have not been able to reach her since.
MLAA
(18,752 posts)I cant imagine what she has and is going through. 🩷
lapucelle
(19,641 posts)madaboutharry
(41,438 posts)What you have described as to what unfolded is a statement about her marriage. Maybe this event will be a wake up call.
Also...Please reassure your daughter that there is a day after. My cousin lost her home and most everything in it in a hurricane. It is a painful journey, but there will be a day when your daughter has a new home.
MadameButterfly
(2,153 posts)and it will be sad if his bad judgment means they not only lose their stuff, but their marriage also. I hope they can recover and be there for each other. Love might be all they have left. The only thing worse than losing everything is feeling that its your own fault. Or having the people you love blame you--and if they are right that only makes it worse. I'm guessing this one error is not all that defines this guy.
PJMcK
(23,195 posts)I'm sorry to hear of your daughter's losses. It's a tragic story.
Diamond_Dog
(35,466 posts)jls4561
(1,642 posts)spooky3
(36,606 posts)KitFox
(132 posts)Staggering devastation. I am so sorry. I hope you can reconnect soon. She will be thankful to have you to help her navigate this tragedy. So sorry!
mzmolly
(51,746 posts)SheltieLover
(60,797 posts)I hope she is able to contact you again very soon.
BigMin28
(1,538 posts)for you and you daughter. I hope you hear from her soon.
Kaleva
(38,749 posts)CanonRay
(14,972 posts)and yes her husband is a moron. But why didn't she just say you stay and do what the f you want, I'm leaving and taking my shit. My wife would have.
magicarpet
(17,254 posts)The items you can't put a price tag on are the first to be packed for safer storage. Seconds count.
Hope your daughter recovers the emotional pain from losing her important and irreplaceable items.
love_katz
(2,886 posts)I hope she can contact you soon, so that you will know that she's ok.
Sogo
(5,896 posts)Solly Mack
(93,345 posts)I'm glad she got through the fire zone. I hope you two get to talk again soon.
calimary
(84,858 posts)I was just texting to a friend that I lived in West L.A. for more than 50 years. Never EVER EVER saw any calamity THIS extreme or horrible.
LudwigPastorius
(11,271 posts)Here's hoping she's able to contact you soon.
keithbvadu2
(40,820 posts)niyad
(121,165 posts)Ptah
(33,567 posts)Tell him,
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littlemissmartypants
(26,077 posts)The broken heart and I understand that feeling of loss in the pit of the stomach. Sometimes the pain can take your breath away.
Fire is so devastating and frightening!
I know that you are relieved that she is alive. I hope you can make contact again soon.
I'll keep you both in my thoughts. Hoping for the best possible outcome.
❤️
onecaliberal
(36,594 posts)PennRalphie
(374 posts)This is an unbelievable disaster.
JMCKUSICK
(726 posts)sheshe2
(88,663 posts)I am so sorry.
dflprincess
(28,586 posts)Thinking of you & your daughter.
1WorldHope
(964 posts)It terrifies me. It's a crap shoot that anyone finds the safest place to be when climate catastrophies overtake us. Things become luxuries at that point. Madd Max begins..
I'm so sorry, I have a daughter too. With a husband. That is a major fear for me to lose communication during, whatever, a thunderstorm, slick highways .
I hope you hear from her very soon. 🤟🏼🤞🏼🫶🏼
BigmanPigman
(52,468 posts)No way in hell would I ever listen to any moron over my own intelligence, especially a family member. Just because info comes from "smart" residents I know I would have said Fuck Off! And hit the road, literally. Good riddance to bad rubbish and bad partners. Save your pets and get the fuck out ASAP...no excuses for losers regardless of blood, religion, age, political affiliation, etc. Use your brain and your eyes...get the fuck out!
Several friends lost homes in the 2 largest fires in San Diego's history in 2003 and 2007. My school was closed for a full week each time...this NEVER occurred before and it is horrifying that anyone in 2025 would choose to stay like this woman's idiotic husband. Call your lawyers and get free from this huge jackass! He sounds like his IQ is down there with tRump's.
kimbutgar
(23,816 posts)slightlv
(4,644 posts)I lost a box of homemade Xmas decorations one year while moving. Since there were decorations in there created by 3 generations of the family, I was heartbroken. And yet I can't imagine the pain your daughter is going through right now. I say this in jest, but if it'd been my husband, I'd let him go about dicking with the generator, while I and the friend gathered my most prized possessions and loaded them into the U-Haul! And dare him to say one word about it after the loss. Men!
Dem2theMax
(10,503 posts)I live in a fire prone area and have had to evacuate before. We got lucky and were able to come home. Can't imagine what it will be like for her. But I know you will be supporting her. Please let us know when you hear from her. And tell her that we are all thinking of her and sending her our love and support.
InAbLuEsTaTe
(24,703 posts)mnhtnbb
(32,206 posts)We lost just about everything to a house fire in 2007. There will be people who will want to tell her you have your lives, everything else is just 'stuff'. You can tell her for me not to feel guilty about losing the photos, the heirlooms, the albums, gifts...and it's ok to respond with a fu*k you to anyone who suggests that those losses don't deserve to be mourned.
We moved from Rustic Canyon-- between the Palisades and Santa Monica-- in 1988. Left California for good. The house we left is now on a map of the fire zone. Last night it was a mandatory evacuation area. Tonight I was texting with a friend who used to live in the Hollywood Hills. Her house is in a mandatory evacuation area. The first house I ever owned with my first husband is in Studio City and it is included in the mandatory Hollywood Hills evacuation area.
Hell has come to Los Angeles. Apparently it's a perfect storm of no rain for months, unheard of Santa Ana winds at up to 100 mph and low humidity. Not enough water and not enough firefighters.
My heart goes out to your daughter. I hope you hear from her again soon.
Phoenix61
(17,756 posts)MissB
(16,142 posts)Im so sorry shes lost so much. Glad she has you in her corner.
LoisB
(9,079 posts)Kali
(55,941 posts)what a scary nightmare
Fla Dem
(26,033 posts)My heart breaks for them.
NNadir
(34,944 posts)electric_blue68
(19,224 posts)pfitz59
(11,094 posts)Find photos or mementos you may have in the house. Pass them on or copy them. Even small seemingly insignificant items may hold great value.
yardwork
(64,967 posts)Grins
(7,976 posts)There were (and are) PLENTY of others who did the same damn thing. What bugs the heck out of me is that so many are elderly. Even elder care facilities were late in deciding to get the hell out.
Lochloosa
(16,464 posts)I hope you hear from her soon and all are well.
Marthe48
(19,620 posts)After this, she will create new and better art. She is more important than the things.
milestogo
(18,573 posts)pandr32
(12,385 posts)I hope you hear from her again soon--you must be out of your mind worried.
MiHale
(10,982 posts)They are the most important.
Squaredeal
(562 posts)CrispyQ
(38,752 posts)The Marshall fire was just down the road from me. Over 1000 homes lost in one afternoon. Fire is so fast & unpredictable! I hope you hear from them soon.
Passages
(1,544 posts)I hope you hear from her soon, the anxiety is too much for anyone.
OAITW r.2.0
(28,939 posts)Best wishes for your family.
AKwannabe
(6,471 posts)Dont know what else I can say.
Take care and let us know when you hear from your daughter again.
Prairie_Seagull
(3,855 posts)Hope you reconnect soon. Please update.
CousinIT
(10,648 posts)Maybe once they get settled somewhere, she can lose him, too. What an unnecessary loss of so much work and irreplaceable treasures caused by that moron.
Exp
(57 posts)LetMyPeopleVote
(156,459 posts)MustLoveBeagles
(12,769 posts)I hope she contacts you soon.
Clouds Passing
(3,194 posts)BadGimp
(4,078 posts)EOM