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Floyd R. Turbo

(29,347 posts)
Wed Jan 8, 2025, 09:21 PM Jan 8

My daughter has lost nearly everything in the Eaton fire, thanks in no small part to her idiot husband.

Early yesterday a friend of her’s showed up with a U-Haul to help her evacuate. Her husband refused to remove any of their belongings from their house. He insisted on dicking around with a generator and pump to use the pool water to keep the house wet. Around midnight their backyard ignited and they just made it to one of their cars before the house caught fire.

She lost thirty years of her award winning photos and fashion designs, heirlooms from her grandparents, photo albums, gifts from her childhood, I could go on and on.

Also lost were custom motorcycles designed and built by her husband worth $250,000.

The last time we spoke was early this morning. She said it took six hours to get out of the fire zone.

While talking the line went dead and we have not been able to reach her since.

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My daughter has lost nearly everything in the Eaton fire, thanks in no small part to her idiot husband. (Original Post) Floyd R. Turbo Jan 8 OP
It's heart breaking. I'm so sorry. MLAA Jan 8 #1
I'm sorry Floyd. lapucelle Jan 8 #2
I am so sorry that your daughter is married to an idiot. madaboutharry Jan 8 #3
We don't know the state of their marriage MadameButterfly Jan 9 #56
I guess you don't think much of your son-in-law PJMcK Jan 8 #4
Oh geez. I am so sorry, Floyd. Diamond_Dog Jan 8 #5
I'm thankful that she's safe. Hope she reaches you soon. jls4561 Jan 8 #6
Very sad. Nt spooky3 Jan 8 #7
Oh no! So horribly sad! KitFox Jan 8 #8
I'm so very sorry. mzmolly Jan 8 #9
So sad SheltieLover Jan 8 #10
I'm so sorry BigMin28 Jan 8 #11
Very sorry Kaleva Jan 8 #12
I'm sorry for her CanonRay Jan 8 #13
Oh what a travesty,... many of the irreplaceables could have been salvaged. magicarpet Jan 8 #14
Really sorry to hear about this. What an awful disaster. love_katz Jan 8 #15
What a tragedy....I'm so sorry. Sogo Jan 8 #16
I'm sorry this is happening to her and I'm sorry for the worry you are still experiencing. Solly Mack Jan 8 #17
It really is turning into "Everybody's Worst Nightmare". calimary Jan 8 #18
That really sucks. LudwigPastorius Jan 8 #19
"It won't happen to me... I've got it under control." keithbvadu2 Jan 8 #20
Please let us know as soon as you hear from her. niyad Jan 8 #21
I don't like that guy. Ptah Jan 8 #22
Her heart must be broken. I can imagine... littlemissmartypants Jan 8 #23
All the vibes.... onecaliberal Jan 8 #24
I am so sorry. PennRalphie Jan 8 #25
Praying they are safe. JMCKUSICK Jan 8 #26
That is a devastating loss, Floyd. sheshe2 Jan 8 #27
I'm so sorry Floyd dflprincess Jan 8 #28
This is horrifying. It's also the future. 1WorldHope Jan 8 #29
If I had an idiot husband I'd get a divorce, ASAP!!! BigmanPigman Jan 8 #30
Omg I am so sorry for your daughter. kimbutgar Jan 8 #31
I feel so bad for her... slightlv Jan 8 #32
I'm so sorry for your daughter. Dem2theMax Jan 8 #33
Can't imagine the heartbreak... so sorry to hear. InAbLuEsTaTe Jan 8 #34
I am so sorry for your daughter's loss mnhtnbb Jan 9 #35
I'm so sorry. I hope you hear from her soon. nt Phoenix61 Jan 9 #36
I hope you hear from her again soon MissB Jan 9 #37
Absolutely heart breaking. I am so sorry; sending prayers for her safety. LoisB Jan 9 #38
sorry to her and you Kali Jan 9 #39
So devastating and they are but one story among thousands, Fla Dem Jan 9 #40
I'm very sorry your family is experiencing this tragedy NNadir Jan 9 #41
Woah! So sorry for your daughter and you. Hopefully you will hear from her soon. electric_blue68 Jan 9 #42
You can help her rebuild some of her past pfitz59 Jan 9 #43
I'm so sorry. I hope she's safe. yardwork Jan 9 #44
He's not the only one...! Grins Jan 9 #45
Sounds like she didn't lose the one thing she needed to the most. Lochloosa Jan 9 #46
Hope you hear from her soon Marthe48 Jan 9 #47
I'm so sorry milestogo Jan 9 #48
What a sad loss for them. pandr32 Jan 9 #49
Good god...the amount of loss...prayers for them being safe... MiHale Jan 9 #50
Hopefully, she has her photos in the cloud and the house insured. Squaredeal Jan 9 #51
Dear Floyd, I am so, so sorry! CrispyQ Jan 9 #52
Horrifying losses. Passages Jan 9 #53
Hope they are OK...must have been awful for you to lose the phone connection. OAITW r.2.0 Jan 9 #54
(Hugs) AKwannabe Jan 9 #55
Damn Floyd, just fucking damn man. Prairie_Seagull Jan 9 #57
OMG. What a freaking idiot is her husband!! CousinIT Jan 9 #58
Terribly sad to lose so much. Thankfully, they did make it out alive! eom Exp Jan 9 #59
I am so sorry LetMyPeopleVote Jan 9 #60
I'm sorry to hear this MustLoveBeagles Jan 9 #61
So sad. I'm so sorry for your daughter's loss. Clouds Passing Jan 9 #62
Best wishes everyone. BadGimp Jan 9 #63

madaboutharry

(41,438 posts)
3. I am so sorry that your daughter is married to an idiot.
Wed Jan 8, 2025, 09:28 PM
Jan 8

What you have described as to what unfolded is a statement about her marriage. Maybe this event will be a wake up call.

Also...Please reassure your daughter that there is a day after. My cousin lost her home and most everything in it in a hurricane. It is a painful journey, but there will be a day when your daughter has a new home.

MadameButterfly

(2,153 posts)
56. We don't know the state of their marriage
Thu Jan 9, 2025, 11:55 AM
Jan 9

and it will be sad if his bad judgment means they not only lose their stuff, but their marriage also. I hope they can recover and be there for each other. Love might be all they have left. The only thing worse than losing everything is feeling that its your own fault. Or having the people you love blame you--and if they are right that only makes it worse. I'm guessing this one error is not all that defines this guy.

PJMcK

(23,195 posts)
4. I guess you don't think much of your son-in-law
Wed Jan 8, 2025, 09:29 PM
Jan 8

I'm sorry to hear of your daughter's losses. It's a tragic story.

KitFox

(132 posts)
8. Oh no! So horribly sad!
Wed Jan 8, 2025, 09:36 PM
Jan 8

Staggering devastation. I am so sorry. I hope you can reconnect soon. She will be thankful to have you to help her navigate this tragedy. So sorry!

CanonRay

(14,972 posts)
13. I'm sorry for her
Wed Jan 8, 2025, 10:03 PM
Jan 8

and yes her husband is a moron. But why didn't she just say you stay and do what the f you want, I'm leaving and taking my shit. My wife would have.

magicarpet

(17,254 posts)
14. Oh what a travesty,... many of the irreplaceables could have been salvaged.
Wed Jan 8, 2025, 10:17 PM
Jan 8

The items you can't put a price tag on are the first to be packed for safer storage. Seconds count.

Hope your daughter recovers the emotional pain from losing her important and irreplaceable items.

love_katz

(2,886 posts)
15. Really sorry to hear about this. What an awful disaster.
Wed Jan 8, 2025, 10:18 PM
Jan 8


I hope she can contact you soon, so that you will know that she's ok.

Solly Mack

(93,345 posts)
17. I'm sorry this is happening to her and I'm sorry for the worry you are still experiencing.
Wed Jan 8, 2025, 10:27 PM
Jan 8

I'm glad she got through the fire zone. I hope you two get to talk again soon.

calimary

(84,858 posts)
18. It really is turning into "Everybody's Worst Nightmare".
Wed Jan 8, 2025, 10:39 PM
Jan 8

I was just texting to a friend that I lived in West L.A. for more than 50 years. Never EVER EVER saw any calamity THIS extreme or horrible.

littlemissmartypants

(26,077 posts)
23. Her heart must be broken. I can imagine...
Wed Jan 8, 2025, 10:58 PM
Jan 8

The broken heart and I understand that feeling of loss in the pit of the stomach. Sometimes the pain can take your breath away.

Fire is so devastating and frightening!

I know that you are relieved that she is alive. I hope you can make contact again soon.

I'll keep you both in my thoughts. Hoping for the best possible outcome.



❤️

1WorldHope

(964 posts)
29. This is horrifying. It's also the future.
Wed Jan 8, 2025, 11:20 PM
Jan 8

It terrifies me. It's a crap shoot that anyone finds the safest place to be when climate catastrophies overtake us. Things become luxuries at that point. Madd Max begins..
I'm so sorry, I have a daughter too. With a husband. That is a major fear for me to lose communication during, whatever, a thunderstorm, slick highways .
I hope you hear from her very soon. 🤟🏼🤞🏼🫶🏼

BigmanPigman

(52,468 posts)
30. If I had an idiot husband I'd get a divorce, ASAP!!!
Wed Jan 8, 2025, 11:22 PM
Jan 8

No way in hell would I ever listen to any moron over my own intelligence, especially a family member. Just because info comes from "smart" residents I know I would have said Fuck Off! And hit the road, literally. Good riddance to bad rubbish and bad partners. Save your pets and get the fuck out ASAP...no excuses for losers regardless of blood, religion, age, political affiliation, etc. Use your brain and your eyes...get the fuck out!

Several friends lost homes in the 2 largest fires in San Diego's history in 2003 and 2007. My school was closed for a full week each time...this NEVER occurred before and it is horrifying that anyone in 2025 would choose to stay like this woman's idiotic husband. Call your lawyers and get free from this huge jackass! He sounds like his IQ is down there with tRump's.

slightlv

(4,644 posts)
32. I feel so bad for her...
Wed Jan 8, 2025, 11:48 PM
Jan 8

I lost a box of homemade Xmas decorations one year while moving. Since there were decorations in there created by 3 generations of the family, I was heartbroken. And yet I can't imagine the pain your daughter is going through right now. I say this in jest, but if it'd been my husband, I'd let him go about dicking with the generator, while I and the friend gathered my most prized possessions and loaded them into the U-Haul! And dare him to say one word about it after the loss. Men!

Dem2theMax

(10,503 posts)
33. I'm so sorry for your daughter.
Wed Jan 8, 2025, 11:49 PM
Jan 8

I live in a fire prone area and have had to evacuate before. We got lucky and were able to come home. Can't imagine what it will be like for her. But I know you will be supporting her. Please let us know when you hear from her. And tell her that we are all thinking of her and sending her our love and support.

mnhtnbb

(32,206 posts)
35. I am so sorry for your daughter's loss
Thu Jan 9, 2025, 12:02 AM
Jan 9

We lost just about everything to a house fire in 2007. There will be people who will want to tell her you have your lives, everything else is just 'stuff'. You can tell her for me not to feel guilty about losing the photos, the heirlooms, the albums, gifts...and it's ok to respond with a fu*k you to anyone who suggests that those losses don't deserve to be mourned.

We moved from Rustic Canyon-- between the Palisades and Santa Monica-- in 1988. Left California for good. The house we left is now on a map of the fire zone. Last night it was a mandatory evacuation area. Tonight I was texting with a friend who used to live in the Hollywood Hills. Her house is in a mandatory evacuation area. The first house I ever owned with my first husband is in Studio City and it is included in the mandatory Hollywood Hills evacuation area.
Hell has come to Los Angeles. Apparently it's a perfect storm of no rain for months, unheard of Santa Ana winds at up to 100 mph and low humidity. Not enough water and not enough firefighters.
My heart goes out to your daughter. I hope you hear from her again soon.

MissB

(16,142 posts)
37. I hope you hear from her again soon
Thu Jan 9, 2025, 12:22 AM
Jan 9

I’m so sorry she’s lost so much. Glad she has you in her corner.

pfitz59

(11,094 posts)
43. You can help her rebuild some of her past
Thu Jan 9, 2025, 09:26 AM
Jan 9

Find photos or mementos you may have in the house. Pass them on or copy them. Even small seemingly insignificant items may hold great value.

Grins

(7,976 posts)
45. He's not the only one...!
Thu Jan 9, 2025, 09:42 AM
Jan 9

There were (and are) PLENTY of others who did the same damn thing. What bugs the heck out of me is that so many are elderly. Even elder care facilities were late in deciding to get the hell out.

Lochloosa

(16,464 posts)
46. Sounds like she didn't lose the one thing she needed to the most.
Thu Jan 9, 2025, 09:44 AM
Jan 9

I hope you hear from her soon and all are well.

Marthe48

(19,620 posts)
47. Hope you hear from her soon
Thu Jan 9, 2025, 10:08 AM
Jan 9

After this, she will create new and better art. She is more important than the things.

pandr32

(12,385 posts)
49. What a sad loss for them.
Thu Jan 9, 2025, 10:52 AM
Jan 9

I hope you hear from her again soon--you must be out of your mind worried.

CrispyQ

(38,752 posts)
52. Dear Floyd, I am so, so sorry!
Thu Jan 9, 2025, 11:17 AM
Jan 9

The Marshall fire was just down the road from me. Over 1000 homes lost in one afternoon. Fire is so fast & unpredictable! I hope you hear from them soon.

OAITW r.2.0

(28,939 posts)
54. Hope they are OK...must have been awful for you to lose the phone connection.
Thu Jan 9, 2025, 11:43 AM
Jan 9

Best wishes for your family.

AKwannabe

(6,471 posts)
55. (Hugs)
Thu Jan 9, 2025, 11:46 AM
Jan 9

Don’t know what else I can say.
Take care and let us know when you hear from your daughter again.

CousinIT

(10,648 posts)
58. OMG. What a freaking idiot is her husband!!
Thu Jan 9, 2025, 01:32 PM
Jan 9

Maybe once they get settled somewhere, she can lose him, too. What an unnecessary loss of so much work and irreplaceable treasures caused by that moron.

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