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Wicked Blue

(6,879 posts)
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 10:27 AM Jan 6

Asking for love and light for my darling Penny

Penny is 15 years, six months and two days old. Born the 4th of July. She is half Cavalier King Charles spaniel and half American Eskimo. She has the sweetest, gentlest disposition, although with a fun-loving, independent spirit. My heart is breaking for her.

It looks like she will be crossing the rainbow bridge today if the vet can get here through the snow.

She's been fading the past few months. Lost the ability to walk or stand - probably some neurological issue according to the vet. i've been changing her diapers and towels about 10 times a day, but she didn't seem to be suffering until last night, She refused food yesterday, and later, water. I've been giving her 0.5 cc of water with a syringe every hour or so.

Overnight she began panting heavily and having muscle convulsions and barking in pain. The three of us were up with her most of the night trying to calm and reassure her. Gave her her dose of gabapentin this morning.

I've been playing the amazingly calming "Song for Daisy" by Gnash on loop, it is almost magical instrumental music for dogs.

Please send her vibes to pass gently and without pain. Thank you.
My husband, daughter and I are absolute wrecks. And I'm so worried that the vet from Lap of Love might not get here. I don't want my sweet baby girl to suffer any longer.



I called a home euthanasia service, but the vet can't get here until noon or later, and the snow has been falling more heavily than we expected.

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Asking for love and light for my darling Penny (Original Post) Wicked Blue Jan 6 OP
So sorry, you have all my sympathy. I know how it feels. Walleye Jan 6 #1
Oh no! Poor baby! CousinIT Jan 6 #2
The vet just called. About 40 minutes depending on the roads Wicked Blue Jan 6 #5
I hope she is there now. Peace to you, Penny and your family. Nt spooky3 Jan 6 #30
Thank you Wicked Blue Jan 6 #45
We have used Lap of Love twice. They were wonderful. Nt spooky3 Jan 6 #59
Holding you and those you love close to my heart as these are moments so many of us share. ((🫶)) Deuxcents Jan 6 #3
Thank you Wicked Blue Jan 6 #46
I'm so sorry, I've been there. Diamond_Dog Jan 6 #4
Thank you Wicked Blue Jan 6 #47
I''m so sorry for your loss. My husband and I are going through a similar situation with our baby, Jasper. Texin Jan 7 #90
Sending love and hope for a peaceful transition biophile Jan 6 #6
Thank you Wicked Blue Jan 6 #50
Wishing all of you peace, love, and comfort. Think. Again. Jan 6 #7
Thank you Wicked Blue Jan 6 #51
Lots of love for Penny. mercuryblues Jan 6 #8
Thank you Wicked Blue Jan 6 #52
OH I so hope she gets her needed respite soon! lark Jan 6 #9
I am so sorry Wicked Blue, Dolly is a American Eskimo, I will send good vibes and prayers for Penny and hope the vet can debm55 Jan 6 #10
Thank you, deb. The vet came, Penny passed Wicked Blue Jan 6 #53
So very sorry for your loss of Penney. SimplyHadEnough Jan 7 #89
So sorry Wicked Blue. Penny will always be with you in heart and spirit. Fla Dem Jan 8 #93
I'm so sorry. I will hold you and Penny in my thoughts. sinkingfeeling Jan 6 #11
You and Penny are in my thoughts SARose Jan 6 #12
So sorry! Ocelot II Jan 6 #13
So sorry 🙏 I know your heart hurts for her. Sending love your way 💙💙💙💙💙 TommieMommy Jan 6 #14
Brought tears to my eyes. Sorry she is suffering. Hope the vet arrives soon. Fla Dem Jan 6 #15
I can tell how lucky your family feels to have had such a beautiful, loving Karadeniz Jan 6 #16
I hope passes gently 10 Turtle Day Jan 6 #17
I'm so sorry. StarryNite Jan 6 #18
Penny... Clouds Passing Jan 6 #19
I'm so sorry, Wicked Blue. LuckyCharms Jan 6 #20
Lady of the Beasts, please take Your Penny gently home in Your loving arms, niyad Jan 6 #21
Thank you, dear niyad Wicked Blue Jan 6 #54
She will live forever in your heart. ZonkerHarris Jan 6 #22
Wicked Blue , please let us know if the home vet gets there, debm55 Jan 6 #23
Sorry to hear this. Mr.Bill Jan 6 #24
I'm.... JoeOtterbein Jan 6 #25
Vibes for Penny's gentle crossing & healing for your family on the way. SheltieLover Jan 6 #26
Deepest sympathy orangecrush Jan 6 #27
Peace for Penny. White light and Love! 1WorldHope Jan 6 #28
I'm So Very Sorry for You DarthDem Jan 6 #29
Sending mental hugs. pandr32 Jan 6 #31
You have my deepest sympathy and hope that the crossing occurs in the most peaceful way Scalded Nun Jan 6 #32
So sorry about Penny Figarosmom Jan 6 #33
My profound empathy and sincere condolences. Genevra Jan 6 #34
She's gone Wicked Blue Jan 6 #35
I'm so sorry for your loss. She's not suffering anymore now but I know your heart is broken. CousinIT Jan 6 #56
hugggggggggggss niyad Jan 6 #57
❄️🌸❄️ Donkees Jan 6 #36
That - soldierant Jan 6 #73
Yes, an excerpt from the Night Chant Donkees Jan 6 #74
Thanks. soldierant Jan 7 #92
Oh, your caring heart post KitFox Jan 6 #37
It is a truly horrible day. BobTheSubgenius Jan 6 #38
I'm so sorry for your loss JMCKUSICK Jan 6 #39
I am so sorry. May Penny's memories be a blessing to you. debm55 Jan 6 #40
Sad news Marthe48 Jan 6 #41
...heartbreaking orleans Jan 6 #42
I am so sorry about Penny bronxiteforever Jan 6 #43
So sorry for your impending loss - it hurts so much - music helps..... alittlelark Jan 6 #44
So sorry to hear this about Penny sdfernando Jan 6 #48
You have it mgardener Jan 6 #49
My heart goes out to you. chowder66 Jan 6 #55
So so sorry montanacowboy Jan 6 #58
I'm so sorry to hear about Penny... slightlv Jan 6 #60
I am so sorry :( JoseBalow Jan 6 #61
My deepest sympathy to you and family virgdem Jan 6 #62
I am so sorry. Will be thinking of you and Penny. HeartsCanHope Jan 6 #63
I am so sorry and haunted by your description of Penny's decline... Trueblue Texan Jan 6 #64
Vibes for best possibble outcome for your sweet Georgia, for peace niyad Jan 6 #83
I'm so sorry. Teacher of the Year Jan 6 #65
I'm so sorry cate94 Jan 6 #66
15 years is a good long life TexasBushwhacker Jan 6 #67
I'm sorry for your loss. Luciferous Jan 6 #68
My condolences about your friend Nigrum Cattus Jan 6 #69
I'm reluctant to click on titles like this because Buddyzbuddy Jan 6 #70
I know the pain Phentex Jan 6 #71
I'm so sorry to read this, Wicked Blue Niagara Jan 6 #72
Sending gentle thoughts for sweet Penny and somfort to her 3 favorite people. MLAA Jan 6 #75
You did the right thing, posting about it here. calimary Jan 6 #76
Love and light is a great answer. Please pass gently and so sorry for your loss. I know how much it hurts. Evolve Dammit Jan 6 #77
I'm so sorry. Cross that Rainbow Bridge gently and with loving arms around you, Penny. skylucy Jan 6 #78
Bless you and her, pass gently into the good night. I'm in process of losing my 3rd doggie this year, they all SWBTATTReg Jan 6 #79
Your kindness and love for your dog is what matters. waterwatcher123 Jan 6 #80
I am sorry for you loss LetMyPeopleVote Jan 6 #81
💐🌈💐 blm Jan 6 #82
So sorry that your baby is suffering Picaro Jan 6 #84
kick debm55 Jan 6 #85
I'm so sorry. area51 Jan 6 #86
Very sorry, Wicked Blue. summer_in_TX Jan 6 #87
In our family, we have decided to call this final loving act "liberating the spirit." 3catwoman3 Jan 6 #88
I'm so sorry for your sweet girl. Bluethroughu Jan 7 #91
Such A Drag ProfessorGAC Jan 8 #94

CousinIT

(10,648 posts)
2. Oh no! Poor baby!
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 10:33 AM
Jan 6

I do hope the vet gets there SOON!.

Sending massive comfort vibes to your sweet girl! I know it's THE WORST seeing your loves suffering but you are doing all you can.

😭💔

Wicked Blue

(6,879 posts)
5. The vet just called. About 40 minutes depending on the roads
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 10:39 AM
Jan 6

No snow on the ground in Asbury Park, she said. Buy it looks like at least 2 inches outside, in Toms River.

Thank you.

Deuxcents

(20,421 posts)
3. Holding you and those you love close to my heart as these are moments so many of us share. ((🫶))
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 10:34 AM
Jan 6

Diamond_Dog

(35,466 posts)
4. I'm so sorry, I've been there.
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 10:34 AM
Jan 6

Cross gently, dear sweet Penny. Thank you for giving your love to a human so joyfully.

Texin

(2,673 posts)
90. I''m so sorry for your loss. My husband and I are going through a similar situation with our baby, Jasper.
Tue Jan 7, 2025, 09:44 AM
Jan 7

He's been in a lively "second puppyhood" for the past six or more months, and this weekend he began to go downhill. I would prefer to have a vet come to the house and there is one who provides this service in-home, but hubs seems reluctant to commit to this right now even though he knows it's the kind and right thing to do. Again, my heartfelt condolences to you.

biophile

(499 posts)
6. Sending love and hope for a peaceful transition
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 10:39 AM
Jan 6

Nature always seems to call them home on a weekend or during a storm 😑.

Wicked Blue

(6,879 posts)
50. Thank you
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 12:37 PM
Jan 6

We think the snow might have been for her - she adored it. Used to run around with her mouth open scooping it up lie a little snow plow.

We gave her a small bowl of snow this morning and she licked up every bit. Did the same with the second bowl too. Thank heaven we were able to give her something enjoyable.

debm55

(40,010 posts)
10. I am so sorry Wicked Blue, Dolly is a American Eskimo, I will send good vibes and prayers for Penny and hope the vet can
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 10:44 AM
Jan 6

get to your home.

Wicked Blue

(6,879 posts)
53. Thank you, deb. The vet came, Penny passed
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 12:41 PM
Jan 6

and now Penny is on her way to cremation.

She was a great dog.

Fla Dem

(26,033 posts)
93. So sorry Wicked Blue. Penny will always be with you in heart and spirit.
Wed Jan 8, 2025, 09:34 AM
Jan 8

Last edited Fri Jan 10, 2025, 09:22 AM - Edit history (1)

I still talk to my cat who passed just over a year ago.

Peace to you.

SARose

(994 posts)
12. You and Penny are in my thoughts
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 10:49 AM
Jan 6

We have two 16 year old dachshunds and know each day we have is a blessing.

You are a good parent and putting Penny’s needs first.

Hard place to be, I know.

Love and light

TommieMommy

(1,324 posts)
14. So sorry 🙏 I know your heart hurts for her. Sending love your way 💙💙💙💙💙
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 10:53 AM
Jan 6

I still miss our dalmatian who passed 10 years ago. They are always in our hearts 🙏

Fla Dem

(26,033 posts)
15. Brought tears to my eyes. Sorry she is suffering. Hope the vet arrives soon.
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 10:59 AM
Jan 6

Makes me think when my girl(cat) of 17 years, passed last year. One of the worst days of my life.

Karadeniz

(23,637 posts)
16. I can tell how lucky your family feels to have had such a beautiful, loving
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 11:12 AM
Jan 6

addition to the family for so many years. She'll be waiting for you on the other side, truly.

10 Turtle Day

(553 posts)
17. I hope passes gently
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 11:12 AM
Jan 6

And that your hearts will heal in time. Cherish all the time you had with her and what time is left. I feel for you.

StarryNite

(11,041 posts)
18. I'm so sorry.
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 11:13 AM
Jan 6

May Penny’s passing be quick and painless as she passes on to her next journey.

niyad

(121,165 posts)
21. Lady of the Beasts, please take Your Penny gently home in Your loving arms,
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 11:28 AM
Jan 6

end her suffering, and send peace and comfort to her grieving loved ones.

I am so very sorry for what you are all going through. Holding all of you in love and light.

SheltieLover

(60,797 posts)
26. Vibes for Penny's gentle crossing & healing for your family on the way.
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 11:39 AM
Jan 6

Have you told her it's ok to go to the Bridge?

DarthDem

(5,374 posts)
29. I'm So Very Sorry for You
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 11:48 AM
Jan 6

May Penny pass ever so gently. It sounds like she was a wonderful companion, and you to her.

pandr32

(12,385 posts)
31. Sending mental hugs.
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 11:54 AM
Jan 6

It is so hard to lose a treasured pet. They are our family.
Your heart must be breaking.

Figarosmom

(3,709 posts)
33. So sorry about Penny
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 11:58 AM
Jan 6

Hold her and whisper she can go it's alright. Hope she'll fade with comfort.

Wicked Blue

(6,879 posts)
35. She's gone
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 12:05 PM
Jan 6

Go now in peace
go now in peace
May the spirit of love surround you
everywhere, everywhere
you may go

CousinIT

(10,648 posts)
56. I'm so sorry for your loss. She's not suffering anymore now but I know your heart is broken.
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 12:44 PM
Jan 6

Donkees

(32,519 posts)
36. ❄️🌸❄️
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 12:09 PM
Jan 6


From the doorway of rainbow,
The path out of which is the rainbow,
The rainbow passed out with me,
The rainbow rose up with me.
Through the middle of broad fields,
The rainbow returned with me


With the rainbow hanging high over your head, come to us soaring.

With beauty before me
With beauty behind me
With beauty above me
With beauty below me
With beauty all around me

It is finished in beauty.
It is finished in beauty.

soldierant

(8,090 posts)
92. Thanks.
Tue Jan 7, 2025, 10:25 PM
Jan 7

I thought I recognized parts of it, but don't think I have seen the whole before (and of course it isn't the whole, but I mean the whole excerpt.)

KitFox

(132 posts)
37. Oh, your caring heart post
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 12:09 PM
Jan 6

is the surest sign that your Penny had the finest of all gifts from you—a full and happy life. I hope the snow pauses enough for the service to arrive soon. I am so sorry. Sending peace and gentle hugs to you as you inch your way through this tough time.

BobTheSubgenius

(11,828 posts)
38. It is a truly horrible day.
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 12:14 PM
Jan 6

I'm so sorry that you and your family are facing this ordeal. My wife and I went through it last May, when we had to end the suffering of our 16-year old Cairn, Ozzie.

D and I send our deepest hopes and wishes for an easy passing. She said that the burden got a little less when we received his ashes from the vet, to whom we paid extra to have the ashes kept from a single-dog cremation.

Some joy for the years you had with her and ease from the suffering of all four of you.

JMCKUSICK

(726 posts)
39. I'm so sorry for your loss
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 12:19 PM
Jan 6

I try to remember in times like these that my overwhelming sadness is the direct result of losing the source of incredible joy.
I try to think of all the reasons my life was made better by my baby and to pray a thank you to their soul.

alittlelark

(18,933 posts)
44. So sorry for your impending loss - it hurts so much - music helps.....
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 12:32 PM
Jan 6
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There are many I’ve used over the years, this one is good


So is this one

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montanacowboy

(6,372 posts)
58. So so sorry
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 12:55 PM
Jan 6

The best day of our lives is when we get them and the worst day when they leave us.
Goodnight sweet princess....peace to you and yours

slightlv

(4,644 posts)
60. I'm so sorry to hear about Penny...
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 01:13 PM
Jan 6

and so sorry for the heartbreak you and your family feels. I understand about the snow... my Mom died on Friday, just before the largest snowstorm in decades hit us. I even had to delay the meeting at the funeral home today because of the roads. I do hope your vet can get there safely. Our fur babies leave huge imprints on our hearts... losing as many of my elder cats as I did last year, I had to get myself to where I acknowledged the loss, the grief, and the pain... and then throw myself into something else like cleaning house. Otherwise, I'd have just been a bundle of tears all the time. Peace to you and yours... and a "good and faithful dog" pat for Penny.

virgdem

(2,220 posts)
62. My deepest sympathy to you and family
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 01:20 PM
Jan 6

on Penny's passing. You gave her such a great life. Cherish always the memories of sweet Penny.

Trueblue Texan

(3,094 posts)
64. I am so sorry and haunted by your description of Penny's decline...
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 02:29 PM
Jan 6

I am experiencing the same thing with my 14-year old cavalier, Georgia. Tuesday morning she was unable to walk, as though her entire backside is paralyzed. We've been using a sling to toilet her and using diapers which don't help much. It is such a stinking mess, but so far she has not demonstrated pain. I've been having trouble getting her to drink water so I've been mixing it with wet food which she gobbles up. The vet said the anti-inflammatory she's taking can cause kidney issues so I know drinking is important. I worry that she will suddenly decline like your baby if I can't get her to drink water more than she now is. I don't know what to do. Maybe I should just put her down, but cognitively she is so sharp, it just doesn't seem right. Based on what I've seen, her mobility is not going to get better. I don't know what the most humane course would be here. She is also a sweet, gentle baby who looks at me with such trust in her eyes. I want to do what is best for her. I guess I'll just take it one day at a time and hope she passes quietly in her sleep.

Peace and healing to you, dear. I know your heartbreak. I have no problem admitting that it is every bit as painful to lose a beloved pet as a family member. They ARE family members. Take care.

niyad

(121,165 posts)
83. Vibes for best possibble outcome for your sweet Georgia, for peace
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 10:13 PM
Jan 6

and comfort for all of you.

65. I'm so sorry.
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 02:41 PM
Jan 6

I've been through that same wait. Once on New Year's Eve. I know nothing I can say will make it any better, Just know I'm shedding a few tears for your sweet Penny and sending some love in her direction. And yours.

Buddyzbuddy

(175 posts)
70. I'm reluctant to click on titles like this because
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 04:29 PM
Jan 6

I know I will feel the pain of what you are going through. To not share in that pain would be selfish. The day is a little darker, my heart a little heavier as my tears flow for you, your family and Penny's pain. May her pain subside and her passing be swift. Remember the memories of moments of joy and laughter she leaves behind and she will live on.
Take care Wicked Blue

Phentex

(16,581 posts)
71. I know the pain
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 05:28 PM
Jan 6

I'm very sorry for your loss. They are family members and it's really really hard to lose them!

Niagara

(9,996 posts)
72. I'm so sorry to read this, Wicked Blue
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 05:33 PM
Jan 6

The majority of us here feel your pain as we have been through this as well.


Please know that I'm sending you best wishes so that your beloved Penny doesn't suffer.

calimary

(84,858 posts)
76. You did the right thing, posting about it here.
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 06:43 PM
Jan 6

Thank you so much for sharing this hard part of the journey with us. You know the old saying “many hands make light work”? Well, many hands can also help lift you up during times like this. It means you don’t have to go through it alone.

Evolve Dammit

(19,418 posts)
77. Love and light is a great answer. Please pass gently and so sorry for your loss. I know how much it hurts.
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 06:54 PM
Jan 6

SWBTATTReg

(24,518 posts)
79. Bless you and her, pass gently into the good night. I'm in process of losing my 3rd doggie this year, they all
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 07:06 PM
Jan 6

reached 17 to 18 years this year, and this is the year the first two died already and the 3rd one is on her way. She is getting spoiled rotten, and her last days will be w/ whatever she wants. It kills me every day to see them go into the night, but I'll be damned to make sure that they have every little bit of goodies, whatever I can give her. She is right by us too, all of the time.

You have our vibes for her to go gently into the night, and our sorrow at your suffering. She knows that you are right by her side. A blessing indeed. Bless you all in your pain.

waterwatcher123

(284 posts)
80. Your kindness and love for your dog is what matters.
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 07:13 PM
Jan 6

I hope the vet makes it through the snow to help ease the pain. If not, your dog will pass on her own without any judgement. You did everything you could to make her last moments on this planet peaceful and loving.

summer_in_TX

(3,358 posts)
87. Very sorry, Wicked Blue.
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 11:42 PM
Jan 6

It's so painful when these creatures we love so much are suffering. We found our Lily, a Chihuahua mix who made it to the age of 17 years of age, suddenly showed she was at her end one night after all the veterinarians in our small town were closed for the night. A heartbreaking night.

I am so sorry for you in this terrible time. I hope your Penny is now free of pain. Sending a

3catwoman3

(25,871 posts)
88. In our family, we have decided to call this final loving act "liberating the spirit."
Mon Jan 6, 2025, 11:54 PM
Jan 6

Euthanized sounds very impersonal for something so fraught with emotion, put down sounds harsh and we so wish they were just going to sleep.

Liberating the spirit has a kind and gentle feel to it, at least for our family.

Wishing you strength and serenity.

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