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essaynnc

(971 posts)
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:25 PM Dec 12

Help me with the start of a discussion with a seemingly reasonable person that voted for Trump.

I started talking to an acquaintance today with whom I'd never brought up politics with.

We got into the tariffs affecting deliveries of some of the materials that we use in our business, and how they might impact him.

His said that he voted for T. twice, and he was happy with what he was doing for our country. At the time he seemed very willing to discuss.

The question is: What might my initial points be about WHY NOT?? I didn't feel that Epstein and being a felon and his racism and misogyny and other hot-button issues would have made for a productive discussion. I did mention DOGE and tariff rebate checks ain't coming, EVER.

What else would you all suggest for an informative, but non-confrontational first volley?

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Help me with the start of a discussion with a seemingly reasonable person that voted for Trump. (Original Post) essaynnc Dec 12 OP
LOL LuvLoogie Dec 12 #1
The Big Bullshit Bill will add three trillion to the deficit over the next decade. CrispyQ Dec 12 #2
Ask how they feel about US veterans being deported berniesandersmittens Dec 12 #3
Nothing, I walk away, just like I did when my brother told me to leave the country. cayugafalls Dec 12 #4
Say "I don't follow politics," eyeroll, and walk n/t leftstreet Dec 12 #14
I thought this sentence was rather interesting.. Dan Dec 12 #5
"reasonable person" + "voted for Trump" oxymoron. Ping Tung Dec 12 #6
Make him follow his own road to its logical end. Does he want to make pencils for a living? Dolls? Maru Kitteh Dec 12 #7
Not worth your time and energy to initiate without a clear indication dalton99a Dec 12 #8
Explain something to me: Chasstev365 Dec 12 #9
Post removed Post removed Dec 12 #10
Crime. Stick to the topic of crime. Mister Ed Dec 12 #11
There's a meme for this. Swede Dec 12 #12
I'd start by asking him what it is he likes about Trump and what he is doing for the country meadowlander Dec 12 #13
The government is not a business, and even if it were, evidence that Trump isn't a particularly good businessman AZJonnie Dec 12 #15
Ask him if he supports the US Constitution... Trueblue Texan Dec 12 #16
If he is "happy" with what he is doing, then I wouldn't waste time talking with him. GoodRaisin Dec 12 #17
More power to you if you have the inclination to engage with these types of people. LuckyCharms Dec 12 #18
Well, "WTF were you thinking?" is probably not recommended. surfered Dec 12 #19
No suggestions here. I couldn't get beyond "Are you fucking nuts?" Vinca Dec 12 #20
Your Basic Premise Is Demonstrably FALSE. Moreover,... ColoringFool Dec 12 #21
You know your acquaintance. karynnj Dec 12 #22

LuvLoogie

(8,519 posts)
1. LOL
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:31 PM
Dec 12

Last edited Sat Dec 13, 2025, 12:13 AM - Edit history (1)

Are you serious? This regime of racists, thugs, drunks, and perverts? Yeah talk to him on his comfort level

JFC.

CrispyQ

(40,672 posts)
2. The Big Bullshit Bill will add three trillion to the deficit over the next decade.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:32 PM
Dec 12

Remind them that authoritarian regimes never have thriving economies.

berniesandersmittens

(13,093 posts)
3. Ask how they feel about US veterans being deported
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:33 PM
Dec 12

If they support that, nothing else will likely get through to them imho

cayugafalls

(5,955 posts)
4. Nothing, I walk away, just like I did when my brother told me to leave the country.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:39 PM
Dec 12

I was not placed on this earth to acknowledge scummy people with no moral compass.

No need to get angry, just walk away.

They don't talk, they lecture.

I'm done being lectured to by morons.

Peace.

Dan

(4,975 posts)
5. I thought this sentence was rather interesting..
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:41 PM
Dec 12

“What might my initial points be about WHY NOT?? I didn't feel that Epstein and being a felon and his racism and misogyny and other hot-button issues would have made for a productive discussion”…

So, questioning - what kind of friend do you have? Not an attack, just curious.

Ping Tung

(4,141 posts)
6. "reasonable person" + "voted for Trump" oxymoron.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:41 PM
Dec 12

Last edited Fri Dec 12, 2025, 02:22 PM - Edit history (1)

“To argue with a man who has renounced the use and authority of reason, and whose philosophy consists in holding humanity in contempt, is like administering medicine to the dead, or endeavoring to convert an atheist by scripture.” Thomas Paine

Maru Kitteh

(31,250 posts)
7. Make him follow his own road to its logical end. Does he want to make pencils for a living? Dolls?
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:42 PM
Dec 12

Is that what he wants for his children or their descendants? Remind him that nobody else in this country wants that either, and it’s not going to happen. This policy is not “for our country” it is for his vanity and enrichment, along with the aspiring trillionaire class.

Ask him why it is that the Oval Office is being foiled in gold while he slurs his way through telling us our little girls need to learn to get by with less.


Chasstev365

(7,123 posts)
9. Explain something to me:
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:48 PM
Dec 12

Most MAGA believed in 2016 that Hillary Clinton ran a pedophilia ring from the basement of a pizza parlor in DC (By the way the restaurant doesn't have a basement) only because of internet lies without one shred of evidence, but dispute 100's of emails between Trump and Epstein, a sick, suggestive birthday card drawning of a naked girl from Trump to Epstein, numerous photos of the two men together and some photos with the underaged victims, they don't believe Trump did anything wrong.

How can a logical person believe that?

Response to essaynnc (Original post)

Mister Ed

(6,808 posts)
11. Crime. Stick to the topic of crime.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 02:02 PM
Dec 12

Surely you and your acquaintance can agree that crime is bad. And if someone agrees that crime is bad, then it's impossible for them to justify elevating to power a criminal who:

Raised a mob to sack the U.S. Capitol, threaten the lives of our elected representatives and vice president, and mercilessly beat police officers - and then pardoned those vicious criminals as soon as he could.

Was convicted on 34 counts of election-related fraud.

Was caught on tape by an honest Republican secretary of state trying to bully state election officials into falsifying election results.

Was found in court to be liable for rape. (Rape, for God's sake! Forcible rape!) All of which lends much credence to the accusations of sexual assault from dozens of other women.

Stole state secrets and refused to return them.

This is only a partial list. Regardless of what policies a person favors, it is impossible for them to justify support of someone who has committed these crimes, and more. Unless they just lie their faces off and claim that none of the above crimes were committed, and are all just "fake". A "hoax". A "witch hunt". That's the way my MAGA brother-in-law handles it.

meadowlander

(5,097 posts)
13. I'd start by asking him what it is he likes about Trump and what he is doing for the country
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 02:10 PM
Dec 12

and then start fact checking that.

If he likes his immigration policies, I'd point out that you could do the same thing by funding more judges instead of sending people to a gulag in El Salvador with no due process or blowing up boats without showing any proof that they are drug dealers. How much money did he waste on Alligator Alcatraz?

If he thinks he's good for the economy, stick to tariffs, the jobs numbers, inflation, etc.

If he likes America first, ask how the war he's ginning up with Venezuela fits in with that or how helping Putin conquer Ukraine serves America's interests. Letting kids in Africa starve and die of AIDS radicalises the next generation against America.

If he thinks he's solving a lot of conflicts and wars, point out that anyone can side with the strong against the weak but that's not creating any kind of lasting peace.

If he thinks he's strong on defence, bring up Signalgate and the stolen documents and all the times he's disrespected veterans and sucked up to foreign dictators.

If he likes that Trump is fighting "wokeness" and "DEI" point out that its not the place of government to tell people what they can and can't say or to protect people from the inevitable social consequences of behaving like an asshole. Trump shouldn't be firing comedians just because he's thin skinned. How would he feel if everyone assumed he only got his job because he was a white man and not because of any of his actual qualifications and then he got laid off for no reason?

AZJonnie

(2,831 posts)
15. The government is not a business, and even if it were, evidence that Trump isn't a particularly good businessman
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 02:20 PM
Dec 12

abounds. At least 6 bankruptcies, dozens of lawsuits where he was sued for stiffing people, his charity being shut down for fraud, adjudication wherein he was ordered to pay $20M for fraud surrounding Trump University, and LOTS of failed businesses: Trump Vodka, Trump Steaks, Trump Airlines, and USFL to name a few.

There's solid evidence Donnieboy took money under that table from his father, who for example used to just go into his AC casinos and buy 10's of 1000's of $$$ in chips, and walk out with them, never cashing them in, to try to prop up his son's failing business. Which largely failed because he took out massive loans and then wasted the money he was given.

And he is by no means a "self-made" millionaire, his claims about having received only a small amount from his father (single-digit millions are what he's claimed) have been shown to be false by the NYT, in fact, he inherited (some of them through illegal schemes involving his father funneling him cash to avoid estate taxes) a sum in excess of $100M. He had a MASSIVE head start, and in fact, squandered his fortune.

So again, the Federal Government is NOT a business, nor should it be treated as one. It exists to serve the people, NOT produce profits, and there's absolutely nothing in the man's personal history that suggests he gives even the tiniest shit about making life better for his fellow man i.e. public service. And even it were a business, the guy clearly lacks talent at building successful businesses.

He cannot even bring himself to be honest with The People regarding what entities are responsible for paying his tariffs. He constantly talks like his tariffs are being paid by foreign countries, when in fact, it is the IMPORTERS (i.e. mostly Americans) that are paying his tariffs. Just one example of the firehose of lies that emanate from the man.

In fact, he literally has lied to The American People THOUSANDS of times, a fact that's been documented by numerous entities, including the WaPo during his first term. You cannot trust ANYthing that comes out of his mouth. That alone makes him unsuited to be the President of the USA. And yes, many politicians do lie from time to time, but Trump is pathological about it, and lies like his survival depends on, like breathing. He claims he didn't say things where there's literally video of him saying it, just days before.

It is more than clear that Trump's standards of what is right and what is wrong is *entirely* based on his perception of which decision or action benefits himself. Enriches him, makes him more powerful, or increases how much he's 'liked' by a particular swath of the population (i.e. your friend in the OP). He has no concept of what people would call "ethics", rather he clearly views every issue from the standpoint of what is good for him, personally. A qualified POTUS, should, by their nature, be someone who views issues through the lens of "what is best for the greatest number of Americans possible". That's part of the job description. And he will NEVER do that, it's not who he is. In fact, he is hostile to that idea, and seems to find it stupid.

He's also shown himself to be willing to use the power of the Federal Government to PUNISH states that didn't vote for him financially, withholding needed funds out of spite and rage. That is about as UNAMERICAN as it gets, and could in fact lead to a new civil war. Those are the actions of a DICTATOR, that have NO PLACE in a representative Democracy.

Basically nothing about the man, his history nor his nature, suggests he's actually QUALIFIED to be President of the USA. He is, however, uniquely qualified to be the Lord God Emperor King of a corrupt backwater banana republic :banghead"

Trueblue Texan

(4,194 posts)
16. Ask him if he supports the US Constitution...
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 02:37 PM
Dec 12

Then ask him if he supports all the ways TSF is ignoring it, thwarting it, and violating it. Give him specific examples and provide logical scenarios to such violations.

GoodRaisin

(10,735 posts)
17. If he is "happy" with what he is doing, then I wouldn't waste time talking with him.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 02:42 PM
Dec 12

Wait until his face gets eaten and then see if he’s still happy.

LuckyCharms

(21,790 posts)
18. More power to you if you have the inclination to engage with these types of people.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 02:49 PM
Dec 12

I just look at them and ask them if they fell and hit their head on the toilet.

Seriously...why engage? Do you think you will change them?

Their opinions are either rooted in stupidity or evilness, and are being masked as "political opinions".

Are you trying to change something so deeply rooted?

There is a about a 95% chance that you will never be able to change them, despite the occasional feel good story about these people changing.

The only thing that seems to change them is if Trump's policies suddenly and unexpectedly kick THEM in the nuts, rather than kicking someone else in the nuts.

surfered

(11,551 posts)
19. Well, "WTF were you thinking?" is probably not recommended.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 03:12 PM
Dec 12

Unemotionally citing facts won’t work because they have alternative facts. Without agreement on the facts, little progress can be made.

Sadly, I can’t offer any advice.

ColoringFool

(255 posts)
21. Your Basic Premise Is Demonstrably FALSE. Moreover,...
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 03:19 PM
Dec 12

What is it you hope to accomplish?

Turning this "acquaintance" into a Democrat? Into a "friend"? Into a sentient Homo Sapiens Sapiens?

FUHGEDDABOUTIT.

karynnj

(60,783 posts)
22. You know your acquaintance.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 04:01 PM
Dec 12

Think about all you know and try to map out what his values are and what is important to him. Then look to find areas where HIS values are in line with us and are damaged by Trump.

For example, is he someone without company provided insurance. If he is either self employed or working for a small business or simply working on a job without that benefit, he may now have increased costs for health insurance. This is a very clear issue that divides the party. If he is old enough to have adult kids, could they be impacted?

Does he value the US as a leader on universities, medical research, basic research etc? Does he understand the potential (if not already in motion) brain drain as we lose some of the brightest minds, some US citizens and some immigrant.

In addition to tariffs which you mentioned, these would be good if you think these are issues he would care about.

The key is to focus on what you know moves him.

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