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frogstar0

(220 posts)
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 11:10 AM Dec 12

One more red voter with regrets

Just one data point.
Lab tech at work, late 20s,early 30s, in national guard, spent time in Iraq.
We have talked a bit of politics over the last 1/2 year. I'm openly very anti TACO.
His reasons for voting for TACO make me cringe but whatever.
Yesterday we got talking.
He feels that he was conned, betrayed, is not proud of his vote.
Hegseth's signal chat, illegal orders touch him personally.
I listen, commiserate, and do not blame even thought he knows i think he was nuts voting for TACO.
He is not hard core maga. He is learning.
This is how we can turn the tide and save our country.
One conversation at a time, one person at a time, one vote switched means two vote difference.

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One more red voter with regrets (Original Post) frogstar0 Dec 12 OP
Compare these egregious Hegseth scandals with the way they screamed about Hillary's emails Walleye Dec 12 #1
I have been saying for months, gab13by13 Dec 12 #2
I fear if they turn against Trump popsdenver Dec 12 #20
Nah quakerboy Dec 12 #25
Still believe a poor vs rich message would work best for us KS Toronado Dec 12 #24
Yes, that is gaining traction i think. frogstar0 Dec 12 #32
I certainly hope so, it worked well for FDR KS Toronado Dec 12 #38
They couldn't see the FREAKING OBVIOUS for a decade or more. usonian Dec 12 #52
Agreed. But with graphics that make the disparity clear. Most Americans are not travelingthrulife Dec 12 #43
Need some really good advertising agencies to help us. KS Toronado Dec 13 #53
That's one of many reasons I think James Talarico could win the US Senate race in Texas. If he gets summer_in_TX Dec 12 #51
I know many of these people actually like trump,( I don't know why, but they do). Linda ladeewolf Dec 12 #3
Yeah, they need to go watch reruns of The Apprentice not fooled Dec 12 #12
They are at the FAFO stage NotHardly Dec 12 #4
Hey folks, think about this popsdenver Dec 12 #23
Well if you are a woman you've had your health and power over your body removed and Hope22 Dec 12 #27
Yes, let's help them see the light and 'be better' frogstar0 Dec 13 #57
We have a director where I work, a foreign born citizen... NNadir Dec 12 #5
After the years of stability under Indira Gandhi DFW Dec 12 #10
I reminded him of that at the time he made the sexist remark... NNadir Dec 12 #14
Also illegal to fire based on how they voted. Dan Dec 12 #11
OK illegal and unethical, but lets be clear that the orange pedophile, not that he... NNadir Dec 12 #15
Yes I recognize that for the Pedo-in-chief Dan Dec 12 #18
Understood. However in my case my ethical stance precludes any risk of me... NNadir Dec 12 #21
When the spell breaks and they are ready to step away, we need to be strategic like you were. Maru Kitteh Dec 12 #6
Screw that. Wifes husband Dec 12 #40
I have a very hard time being civil to them Skittles Dec 12 #48
Yep! But... frogstar0 Dec 13 #56
Totally agree to show them an open hand Alice Kramden Dec 12 #45
I admire your patience BaronChocula Dec 12 #7
Yes it is hard not to scream what were you thinking? And much worse. frogstar0 Dec 12 #29
As much as I hate to say it... Hear Hear! (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Dec 13 #62
I agree. I don't think we should double shame people for being scammed. 1WorldHope Dec 12 #8
I'll only shame them once, then. Iggo Dec 12 #16
I understand , but do it with humor, let them know you are open to hearing why, how they feel etc. frogstar0 Dec 12 #33
Doesn't really matter that much, unless I live with them or work with them... Iggo Dec 12 #41
Yes, do not make your life harder, and only do what you can do. frogstar0 Dec 12 #46
scammed? MAYBE, maybe the FIRST FUCKING TIME Skittles Dec 12 #49
I share your anger, I share your looking at them and ... frogstar0 Dec 13 #58
they can all go fuck themselves Skittles Dec 13 #65
I've noticed that the more moderate bridge players I know... ananda Dec 12 #9
How can you tell? DFW Dec 12 #13
Hey-oh! Iggo Dec 12 #17
That is soooo bad it is good! frogstar0 Dec 12 #34
Sometimes I'm surprised DFW Dec 12 #42
But he's still cool with the racist kidnappings detentions and assaults. LuvLoogie Dec 12 #19
I do not have a full picture of why he vote red, his description. frogstar0 Dec 12 #31
"His reasons for voting for TACO make me cringe..." cyndensco Dec 12 #22
That may be a good assumption Blumancru Dec 12 #28
Strangely enough he liked JFK, at least that is what I got from him so far. frogstar0 Dec 12 #30
Been saying basically the same thing for quite awhile KS Toronado Dec 12 #26
Yes,yes,yes!!! frogstar0 Dec 12 #36
Your response was right iemanja Dec 12 #35
A new member of the Leopard Eating My Face Party LetMyPeopleVote Dec 12 #37
I love how they come to their regret too late to do anything about it. Aristus Dec 12 #39
I am working on it! frogstar0 Dec 12 #44
I agree. There's a big part of me that hates MAGAts with a passion... CaptainTruth Dec 12 #47
Every one of these anecdotes gives me hope! calimary Dec 12 #50
There is an organization Leaving MAGA Freddie Dec 13 #54
Not to mention three times... frogstar0 Dec 13 #55
Part of being in a cult is the security of "community". no_hypocrisy Dec 13 #59
totally agree frogstar0 Dec 13 #60
There are some second and third generation Nazis in Germany. no_hypocrisy Dec 13 #61
I do not doubt that... we of course have... frogstar0 Dec 13 #64
Yup, but it ain't easy. Joinfortmill Dec 13 #63

gab13by13

(31,239 posts)
2. I have been saying for months,
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 11:18 AM
Dec 12

We are going to get unwashed Magats to join us to throw the billionaires out of power.

We are even getting a few cracks with Congressional Magats.

popsdenver

(1,562 posts)
20. I fear if they turn against Trump
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:37 PM
Dec 12

The Republican House and Republican Senate, as well as the Republican Justices on the USSC, as well as all the Corporations and all the Main Stream Media will merely install a replacement who in many ways could be worse.

It is not just "Trump" per se, he wouldn't have lasted one minute in Jan2016 if all the above Republicans hadn't put him in place, and all were in lockstep for the past 10 years KEEPING him in place........their consolidated actions including un-fathomable corruption, and even TREASONOUS actions, many times over and over......

travelingthrulife

(4,463 posts)
43. Agreed. But with graphics that make the disparity clear. Most Americans are not
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 03:43 PM
Dec 12

good with numbers or math.

summer_in_TX

(4,046 posts)
51. That's one of many reasons I think James Talarico could win the US Senate race in Texas. If he gets
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 11:48 PM
Dec 12

the chance. He's got the poor vs rich message and speaks real Christianity and refutes the Christian Nationalists (voicing the kind of public theology the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther Kink and Rev. William Barber do so well).

But that depends on his winning the primary. Jasmine Crockett is brilliant and hard hitting, which we Dems love. But he's got the winning message that can reach across the aisles and peel off disaffected Republicans as well as attracting the independent voters. Jasmine excites our base. I love her voice too. Talarico's style of fighting doesn't juice us up as much but is I think the most effective for our state. Plus he doesn't attack in a way that makes those who like particular Republicans feel personally attacked. He's kind as well as brilliant, grounded, and principled. I hope Texas Dems really evaluate who is the kind of candidate who won't just attack and make political points against an opponent but can bring those who aren't already on board to join in.

Texas' US Senator John Cornyn said he thought Jasmine Crockett getting in would help Republican chances. I agree.

Linda ladeewolf

(1,105 posts)
3. I know many of these people actually like trump,( I don't know why, but they do).
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 12:54 PM
Dec 12

They can go ahead and like him, hate his policies then vote for someone else. Can they not comprehend that?

not fooled

(6,606 posts)
12. Yeah, they need to go watch reruns of The Apprentice
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:24 PM
Dec 12

if they need a dose of trump to scratch their dumbass itch.

Just stop supporting him while he wrecks the country.


NotHardly

(2,621 posts)
4. They are at the FAFO stage
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:01 PM
Dec 12

They are finding out what 'hurting the other' actually meant. "First they came for"... level angst dawning on them.

popsdenver

(1,562 posts)
23. Hey folks, think about this
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:44 PM
Dec 12

It was the Republican Senate, Republican House, and Republican USSC Justices that installed him in power in 2016, along with the Republican Owned Mass Media, Fox, RW Radio, and Corporations across America.

Trump is realistically just their FRONT man, just as Reagan and WBush were before him.
It is the REPUBLICAN Party, and all those above that not only installed him, but were in lockstep keeping him there.

When Trump Inc goes away.......all of those entities will be installing someone new to carry on, and that person, may actually be much worse in many way.........

Hope22

(4,468 posts)
27. Well if you are a woman you've had your health and power over your body removed and
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 02:01 PM
Dec 12

You are slated to lose your vote under project 2025….our healthcare system is on the brink of collapse and these people are committing piracy on the open waters. Americans are being illegally deported sorted by color and the National Guard armed at ready are being sent into out cities. Our agricultural system has been brought to its knees. The dollar is sinking and Social Security has been threatened. Medicaid and Medicare are already undergoing strict changes with five states enduring a five year trial for Medicare services by pre approval!!! We are threatening our neighbors and threatening Venezuela with an unprovoked war. Please help me understand how things will get worse. I think Nuclear war is already on the table so I’m struggling to see what there is left to fear.

NNadir

(37,302 posts)
5. We have a director where I work, a foreign born citizen...
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:09 PM
Dec 12

...where I work, naturalized from India, who said he wouldn't vote "for that woman."

It was pure sexism.

He now regrets that bit of ugliness, albeit too late. After the election I gave him and a colleague a little civics/history lecture about how democracies inevitably die and indicated that this one has died.

I'm actually senior to the guy in corporate rank, but he does not report to me, which doesn't matter since, if he did, I would never fire someone for the way they vote. That's unethical. Anyway, the company needs the guy; he's very good at what he does.

I have noted in my long career how often people compartmentalize, how they can be absymal in one area and an exceptional performer in another.

DFW

(59,737 posts)
10. After the years of stability under Indira Gandhi
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:21 PM
Dec 12

An Indian says he wouldn’t vote for “that woman,” who was, herself, part Indian?

What did want, Shiva to personally announce a run?

NNadir

(37,302 posts)
14. I reminded him of that at the time he made the sexist remark...
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:26 PM
Dec 12

...which acknowledged but was nonetheless unimpressed.

NNadir

(37,302 posts)
15. OK illegal and unethical, but lets be clear that the orange pedophile, not that he...
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:29 PM
Dec 12

...cares about the law, given a "Supreme Court" that also doesn't care about the law, routinely fires people based on their vote.

Dan

(4,975 posts)
18. Yes I recognize that for the Pedo-in-chief
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:33 PM
Dec 12

But for a decent law abiding citizen, I just wanted to share the law.

NNadir

(37,302 posts)
21. Understood. However in my case my ethical stance precludes any risk of me...
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:38 PM
Dec 12

...violating the law.

I've had a number of Republicans who worked for me over the years, and on multiple occasions I've (uncomfortably) reported to a few myself.

I generally do not allow my political views interfere with my professional life, unless of course, there is a conflict with the law or ethics.

Maru Kitteh

(31,250 posts)
6. When the spell breaks and they are ready to step away, we need to be strategic like you were.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:11 PM
Dec 12

Present an open hand and show them a better path, when we can. It won’t always be possible, but looking for small opportunities like what you have shared - matter.

frogstar0

(220 posts)
56. Yep! But...
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 06:08 AM
Dec 13

Yes but, remember Senator Robert Bird, and George Wallace. I make no religious clams but I do think people can redeem themselves. Yes it is hard to deal with them but again we are fighting for our country, our, our Democracy and freedom. My father fought in the Pacific in WW2, that was hard. By comparison working to convince MAGAs both hard and soft core is considerably easier.

Alice Kramden

(2,880 posts)
45. Totally agree to show them an open hand
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 06:13 PM
Dec 12

These are people whose minds can be changed - for the better

BaronChocula

(4,032 posts)
7. I admire your patience
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:15 PM
Dec 12

without compromising your stance. I've pretty much just given up on people.

frogstar0

(220 posts)
29. Yes it is hard not to scream what were you thinking? And much worse.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 02:16 PM
Dec 12

Yet we must be smart, and work slowly etc. Our country is too important to give in to thing that are unhelpful . And too important to give up. Come here vent, get a dart board, and a pic of TACO whatever but then keep planting seeds of doubt. I have 3 anti TACO bumper stickers on my car….the beater I commute to work in. We have a ‘‘no king, no fascist no nazis’ sign at our driveway.
‘ Because it is important let people know they are not alone. And my town voted 450ish to 150ish for TACO.

1WorldHope

(1,862 posts)
8. I agree. I don't think we should double shame people for being scammed.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:20 PM
Dec 12

It's like blaming people who believed the tobacco companies for smoking. Human being are gullible. Next time it could be us. We have one planet people.

frogstar0

(220 posts)
33. I understand , but do it with humor, let them know you are open to hearing why, how they feel etc.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 02:27 PM
Dec 12

This is cult deprogrammed for some, pushing softly or harder for others. Each of us is different and has a different relationship with the ‘red’ voter. We need to build relationships to turn people.

Iggo

(49,654 posts)
41. Doesn't really matter that much, unless I live with them or work with them...
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 03:09 PM
Dec 12

…because it’s the last time I’ll ever talk to them, if I can help it.

Life’s too short and life’s too long to let that kinda people into my life.

frogstar0

(220 posts)
46. Yes, do not make your life harder, and only do what you can do.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 07:42 PM
Dec 12

I have a maga SIL that we do not talk politics with. I have little interest in being around her, nothing in common. But if it came up….. I would try to do the same. Listen, push back some, engage. Like someone else mentioned now many MAGAs are starting to question the cult. Some are becoming reachable. They do not have that black woman to deionize, so taco’s bat crap stuff stand alone. But Yes leave the hard core aggressive one out of your life. Until they change.

Skittles

(169,584 posts)
49. scammed? MAYBE, maybe the FIRST FUCKING TIME
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 11:03 PM
Dec 12

AGAIN AND AGAIN? FUCK THOSE FUCKING RACIST ASSHOLES., FUCK THEM ALL TO HELL AND BACK

frogstar0

(220 posts)
58. I share your anger, I share your looking at them and ...
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 06:43 AM
Dec 13

Saying what the f were you thinking? I want to scream at them and say how can you be so stupid and live? I share all those same feeling with you and every other non cult and non ‘I wanted to shake thing up’ or whatever the hell they were thinking.person. But I want to win the next election. And the one after that. I want to help make maga so small you could drown it in a bathtub. Again one turned vote is two votes gained.

Skittles

(169,584 posts)
65. they can all go fuck themselves
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 03:23 PM
Dec 13

FUCK coddling racist pieces of shit, I'd prefer to GET OUT THE VOTE, get more people voting

ananda

(34,434 posts)
9. I've noticed that the more moderate bridge players I know...
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:20 PM
Dec 12

have turned against Trump.

I've been getting likes from them on FB.

LuvLoogie

(8,519 posts)
19. But he's still cool with the racist kidnappings detentions and assaults.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:35 PM
Dec 12

Did he have anything to say about trump's latest racist screed about immigrants from "shithole" countries?

frogstar0

(220 posts)
31. I do not have a full picture of why he vote red, his description.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 02:20 PM
Dec 12

We only have so much time to talk as we are both working so I get a little information at a time.

cyndensco

(1,760 posts)
22. "His reasons for voting for TACO make me cringe..."
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 01:38 PM
Dec 12

Fortunately I have never been in the presence of someone who admittedly likes the motherfucker. What were the lab tech's reasons? My assumption is racism?

Blumancru

(210 posts)
28. That may be a good assumption
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 02:06 PM
Dec 12

I am a civil engineer, sandy hair and blue eyes (part Scandinavian descent), and have always got along with Indians very well. I have been invited to lunch or to chat, while most of my co workers were not. An Americanized woman of Indian descent explained to me that colorism is a thing in Indian society, and that someone who looks like me might have a better reception among Indians. She had a darker complexion and had a tougher go.

So, that could be why he would not vote for Harris.

frogstar0

(220 posts)
30. Strangely enough he liked JFK, at least that is what I got from him so far.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 02:17 PM
Dec 12

And his make America healthy, he mentioned red dye. as I said I cringed.

KS Toronado

(23,060 posts)
26. Been saying basically the same thing for quite awhile
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 02:00 PM
Dec 12

"One conversation at a time, one person at a time, one vote switched means two vote difference."

I really feel sorry for the people who are afraid to talk to the other side because "MAGAts are all xxxxxx"

The tide is turning against tsf.ucker, Rs are now more open to talk about the best way to vote. If every
Democrat would convince one R to vote D, there would be no elected Rs. Had a post today along the
same lines........

https://democraticunderground.com/100220862531


iemanja

(57,394 posts)
35. Your response was right
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 02:29 PM
Dec 12

Castigating people upset with Trump only hurts our electoral prospects.

Aristus

(71,653 posts)
39. I love how they come to their regret too late to do anything about it.
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 02:38 PM
Dec 12

Fuck 'em. They got the U.S. truly fucked because they wanted to "shake things up", or they didn't want a woman, or a woman of color as President, or they leaned into the racism and misogyny, etc.

If they truly represent a flipped vote, they can prove it by voting Blue at the next election; then they can go to Hell.

CaptainTruth

(8,048 posts)
47. I agree. There's a big part of me that hates MAGAts with a passion...
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 09:24 PM
Dec 12

...that part of me wants nothing to do with them, but there’s a more rational part of me that realizes if we want to save our country, we need to do what we can to break through the right-wing propaganda that has deluded them & lead them to truth & reality, & that will require talking to them, personally, face-to-face.

I did a bit of that myself today.

calimary

(89,041 posts)
50. Every one of these anecdotes gives me hope!
Fri Dec 12, 2025, 11:13 PM
Dec 12

Hope for an improved House and Senate by this time next year!

Freddie

(10,059 posts)
54. There is an organization Leaving MAGA
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 01:36 AM
Dec 13
https://leavingmaga.org/our-founder/

I know someone who did. He was angry about the economy in 2016 and “wanted to try something different” since Trump the politician was a pretty unknown quality then. This person actually realized and regretted his mistake during Term 1. Not sure if there’s any saving the idiots who voted for him twice.

frogstar0

(220 posts)
55. Not to mention three times...
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 05:59 AM
Dec 13

Yes sending family and friends caught in the maga cult that link might help. And I have done that and posted the link in several places. Anything that can plant a seed that there are others who have left maga and that their life will be ok and even better if they leave. Serious MAGA is a cult and it is their identity, who they are, but that is not true all ‘red’ voters. Different tactics for different people. The guy in my post is not cult maga, but I have another coworker who is. I have not talked to him in a long time about politics. About time I did to follow my own advice.

no_hypocrisy

(54,290 posts)
59. Part of being in a cult is the security of "community".
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 06:54 AM
Dec 13

You're all alike and bolster each other's beliefs. You like being apart from "non-believers" and feel superior to them.

frogstar0

(220 posts)
60. totally agree
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 09:00 AM
Dec 13

That is one of the biggest, if not the biggest thing we have to overcome to turn someone.

no_hypocrisy

(54,290 posts)
61. There are some second and third generation Nazis in Germany.
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 09:03 AM
Dec 13

I met them.

They secretly meet in the woods, drink beer, and sing Hitler "fight songs".

They have secret displays in the cellars of their homes with Hitler and Third Reich memorabilia.

That is indeed a cult.

frogstar0

(220 posts)
64. I do not doubt that... we of course have...
Sat Dec 13, 2025, 11:57 AM
Dec 13

our confederate heritage boys. I'm in upstate NY (like the definition of Yankee) and a neighbor just up the road has a stars and bars.
And they are not uncommon around here. But you know it is not racism, no how could you ever thing that? It is heritage!

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